Getting married but still breastfeeding - feasible or insane?

[PickledLily]

LO will be 6 months old and it will be low-key affair. The church is opposite the house and the reception will be in our garden. Organising it whilst on mat leave seems a better option than waiting until I'm back at work and trying to juggle a demanding job with childcare.

Any thoughts or experience?

I think I'd have a plan 'B' just in case - expressed milk in a bottle if your baby will take milk from a bottle.

I can remember when we took dd out, admittedly for the first time, just after a feed. We went for a pub lunch, and literally as soon as we'd sat down she wanted feeding again. Can't quite imagine having to feed at the chancel steps in the middle of your vows.

i got married when i was still breasting feeding myy dd2 who was around 14 mnths. it was fine but i just whipped my boobie out my dress and fe her when she needed it. Was a low key affair in our little community hall next to our house. Home in bed by midnight!!

Good advice tb, I'm assuming (hoping?!) she'll drink from a bottle by then, as you say I can't imagine breast feeding in church. I know we are already pushing the boundaries of convention, but that might be one step too far for the vicar!

Good to hear you managed it successfully Rasty. I suppose one of my concerns is whether she will be settled into a vague routine by that point. And what the hell would make a suitable wedding dress for feeding

I got married when DS was still EBF at 4.5 months - was fine. Chose a simple dress which wasn't a drama to be unzipped from, but had a bustier corset thing on underneath which did need a bit of help. So I fed him last minute before getting dressed (wedding was at 4 so I suppose that would make it the 2.30ish feed) and had expressed milk in bottles ready for whichever brave soul wanted to try to convince him. He wailed and wailed in church but to be honest I never knew. (I didn't even notice when somebody knocked over a cast iron candelabra down the back of the church.) Fed him again at about 8pm mainly because my boobs were bursting and then we had an in-room babysitter for the rest of the evening.

TBH at 6m your dd will probably know what side her bread is buttered and will realise if some random relative has the bottles where the milk is coming from, better go for it! I would also advise you get a rota of people on baby holding duty and who can take her for a walk or settle for nap unless it is such a relaxed wedding that you or husband will have her in a sling/on your hip all day!

I'd say it will be absolutely fine, you just need suitable clothing!
I've BF my DS on the main platform of a cathedral, in the choir stalls and pews of churches as well as the sofas at the back.
I was also in a 90 minute service (robed up) while dd2 was 4 months, by feeding her just before the service she was asleep and I went over at the end and fed her again then

You will be fine, Vicar should be fine, just warn them if you think they might be shocked

Have a great day

i cant see why it would be a prob. Nothing at all wrong with feeding your baby in church!

we did it. DS was 10 months, and not impressed by bottles at all! i had quite a tight bodice on the dress, but managed to go to a room and hoik a boob out for him. I did get mastitis a few days later, but suspect that was more to do with the strapless bra not fitting as well as the nursing bras.

worst part of the wedding was when DS did a STINKER of a nappy, and my mum ('oh, I'll look after him all day, you don't need to worry about anything!') promptly handed him to us and said 'your baby, your problem' :o changing a runny nappy whilst wearing a white dress was, um, interesting :o

It was lovely having DS there though, he was the centre of attention the whole day, which suited DH and I, as we hate being in the spotlight.

You'll be fine :)

I didnt get married while Breastfeeding, but I'd like to add my voice to the other posters who think it's ok to feed in church

Our vicar(s) haven't batted an eyelid, and the flower arranging ladies didn't seem to mind when I fed perched on the windowsill up by the alter while flower arranging

Obviously you don't want to plan to feed during your marriage service, but if it comes to it, or you need to feed straight after but before photos etc, I doubt it would cause a problem.

I got married when ds was 6 months old and he was still breastfeeding. A baby at 6 months feeds a lot less than a newborn. Also a baby at 6 months can have solids and doesn't need to feed constantly. You won't need to feed during the marriage service.

Dead feasible. i booked wedding for when ds was 3 mnths as i thought easier to plan & i knew i'd never be thinner (i lose weight whilst pregnant). Simple dress and strapless bra during day, bottles of expressed for eve, most important thing is to have someone you can rely on who will be completely responsible for your dc throughout - my sil was amazing!

DS was 16 months when we got married and was still bf. we had a reasonably big wedding, marquee etc, and from the start made sure it was as child-friendly as possible in general. We had a small 'quiet' room at the back of the marquee for changing and feeding (lots of babies present) and I fed DS in there a couple of times during the evening reception. DS was old enough not to 'need' bf, but the weeks before the wedding were so manic that he needed the comfort still and his feeding went up. I had a normal strapless dress and just made sure I took a pashmina with me to cover my modesty, and felt no embarrassment even when the caterers kept coming in to ask me questions!