Would you tell him he's overweight?

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If your partner/DH etc was overweight (not huge amounts, just enough to grow a little tummy and a little double chin) would you tell them? I mean if you loved them anyway but perhaps prefered them slim?

Obviously there is the health issue and I suppose you could put it that way.

What if they didn't want to do anything about it or did but didn't actually make much effort?

What if you didn't really fancy them so much when a bit chubbier? Would you tell them?

No, wouldn't say anything. It's hard to lose weight and they'll already be aware of it.

Yeah, I could mention it to my dp, and he could (and has) to me. No offence was taken as he was right. I had put on weight and him gently mentioning it gave me even more determination to lose it. Although to be fair, I go on about my weight on a regular basis, so it wasn't like a bolt out the blue for him to mention it as well.

I tell mine, although I do have complete double standards as if he mentioned my weight to me id get very upset. He takes it well & generally does something to lose a bit. (He can put weight on & lose it again quickly, which may be why he's happy to be told & act on it!).

Not if its for my own selfish reasons, no. If I was genuinely worried about his health, then yes. A bit of extra podge after Christmas is unlikely to hurt him though.

No, am sure he is well aware of it...

Yes I would and I have.

DH has always been 'overweight' but when he put on another stone I did tell him.

He's lost 1/2 stone so far but don't expect him to lose more than the extra stone he put on.

His mum is overweight and has lots of related health conditions.

On a selfless level, I don't want him to have an impaired quality of life or reduced life expectancy because he's put on weight and I've idly sat by and let him.

On a selfish level, I don't want to end up caring for somebody who has developed a range of health complications because he can't say no to crisps and chocolate. Because that is the cause of his weight gain.

He already struggled to put his socks on and get up off the floor because of his belly.

I'd be happy with him pulling me up on my weight if I suddenly put weight on for the same reasons too.

Iv told my DP before he often works away so eats rubbish and drinks last time he went for 2 weeks and looked bigger when he got back so I told him.
I do tell him nicely and it always spurs him to cut back.
I wouldn't be offended if he said it to me x