I got friendly with one of the mothers at playgroup. At yoga i met another mother who i also became friends with. They are now friends too. One is totally extrovert, life and sole of the party, everythings a drama with her in the middle of it (which she loves and this is her style which we joke about openly). She is also admits to being a bit insecure for which she has her reasons and this can perhaps make her seem a bit needy at times. I dont mind any of this, overall she is a really good friend and i can depend on her and i hope she feels this is mutual.
The other pal is more reserved, more of a worry wart and generally not as life and sole of the party type. She has boys and the other pal has girls. This is in itself a problem as the boys like mine, are more boisterous and her girls are typical girls.
Recently the quieter one wants a break, id like to think i was quite good at reading people and know she wouldnt for example like an unannounced visit or like to meet up every other day so i try to let her initiate seeing us. She needs her own space. Other pal is a calls in whenever, doesn't always knock, would happily see you everyday type. I think quieter pal finds this, at times, too much. I know she does. But party pal doesnt really pick up on this. Instead when quiet pal keeping low profile she asks me what is wrong, says quiet friend hardly speaking to her etc and well to be honest i dont know what to tell her.
I have tried saying she is lying low, she needs some space, that i haven't been texting her or ringing much because i know she needs some head space but this makes the party pal think she must need more support and goes into texting over drive leaving quiet pal even more stressed and feeling perhaps a bit claustraphobic. They live in the same street too so this doesnt help.
I feel so stuck in the middle, not so much with quiet one but the other who voices that she feels she is being put off by the other. I really enjoy being friends with both of them but i do find this stressful.
WWYD????