Would you tell the mother if yr child saw their friends sexual experiments or if you heard their conversations about it?

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My 8 yr old had a sleepover & I heard his friend talk a lot about sex.who was his girlfriend & who he had had sex with. I discussed it with my son that his friend didn't probably understand what sex was & I he could talk to me about anything he was unsure about or wanted to know. He knows some stuff but it not keen to know more as yet. I don't know the mother that well so didn't mention it. This was several wks ago.

Them over holidays he told me when he had been round a different friends house with a few others 2 of the boys had done a lot of naked touching and licking in front of him and others. He thought they had had sex so I explained it wasnt. I wasn't sure what else to say. I said it wasn't wrong and they were just trying things out. I know one of the mothers of these boys better but haven't seen her since as she was away for holidays.
Should I tell her? Would you want to /need to know? Am very unsure.

I'd speak to nspcc. It's not normal 8 year old behaviour.

I don't really know what to say

Yes, I would want to know. Would you be as relaxed about it if your son had said he'd seen an 8 yr old boy and an 8 yr old girl touching and licking each other?

It's inappropriate and unusual. I'd be worried, and I wouldn't be telling my children that it's OK to do that with your friends.

Why did you tell him it was normal? Are you talking about 8 year olds at it?

Well yes, you need to say something. If for no other reason than the boys need to be told they should not be doing it in front of other kids.
Experimenting is one thing but putting other children in the awkward (possibly upsetting) position of having to witness it is not on at all.

I don't think I believe this so, I'm leaving.

Well the boys were 9. I'm sorry you don't believe me.

So for the posters who say call the nspcc when is sexual experimentation to be ok? I remember children doing the show me mine and I'll show me yrs at that age.

I think it was a quick dare sort of thing rather than a very long time.

Licking puts a different spin on it.

Scvs?

Yes I would speak to nspcc and then speak to the mother. I'd want to know if my DS was doing that

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My son is 8, dear me if I thought he'd seen anything like this I be horrified. I really dont think he is anywhere near thinking about sex yet. Yes definitely tell the mother. I do wonder if there is a chance that it could even be seen as sexual abuse on children that age. It makes me wonder where on earth they got the idea from in the first place?

What did you do OP?

dissappeared quickly

Why did you say it wasn't wrong? It doesn't sound to right to me.

I wouldn't let my DS play with these boys at other peoples houses again.