WWYD..? Relationship fallout & christmas

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I haven't spoken to my sister for the last 7 months, she has in this time had a baby (my first dn).
Long story and I have discussed it here BUT I just a bit of advice please.

I attempted to call my sister 2 weeks ago, it resulted after 30 sec's with her hanging up, telling me to never text/write or call her.

I have 2 dk's, she hasn't attempted to contact them since we fell out even major events have heppened which I assume she would be aware of iykwim.

So........... sat here I have a cheque for an anniversary gift, sent to me months after the fall out and I have just returned from my parents a few days ago with 2 gifts for the dk's.

I know what it is...............

BUT wdid..?

Her telling me to not make contact stops me (imo) from sending my dn a gift. I sent cards and flowers after and before the arrival, all got thrown away... so anything I do send will go the same way. Why should I waste my time or money.?

Im tempted to return this gift along with the cheque. Why should she be able to send my dk's gifts when I can't do the same iykiwm..

Petty I know but Im annoyed..

WWYD..?

Keep the cheque and the gift, send a gift to your DN. You clearly want to resume some sort of contact, and by quietly chipping away and accepting the cheque you may eventually get somewhere. If she bins your present then at least you'll know you've tried, and she'll know you tried.

Yes, I do hassledge but it does upset me if it gets thrown away although I may never know..

She has hurt me so much, she doesn't know half of it and yes I have upset her BUT I want it resolved.sad

I know dh is against me sending anything and I can see why. I have been having counselling following my 3rd mc and have gone through alot the last 6 months, this just adds to it tbh.

I'm sorry - it sounds shit for you. But I do think you keep the moral high ground if you send the present and keep hers.