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headteacher out of line???

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mammylonglegs · 17/12/2011 07:25

About two weeks ago my son had an accident in the playground at mid day. At two I got a call on my mobile to say that this incident had happened and they felt that he should go home as he felt a little ill. 10 minutes later I was at the school.The head teacher stated that they had been trying to contact me in a brusque and condescending manner. I challenged this and said that I only recieved a call 10 minutes ago and had had no contact from the school before that. It turned out they had called by husband (in a meeting with mobile off) and then the house. So the head backed down. I believed that we had both said our piece and that the incident was over.

A couple of days ago I saw the head in the playground and greeted her. She blanked me. I called her rather loudly under my voice a cow (I know should have had more maturity) which she heard. A couple of mothers heard this and as I was walking out the school gate I heard the head say to them that she found me difficult to deal with!

I have never had any other incidents with the head or any other teachers in two and a half years of dealing with the school.From speaking to a number of other mothers about her, it seems that this brusque tone is not something new. I felt very embarrased initally , now I feel upset and angry.She seems to have taken the incident personally and I believe that she has behaved in a very unprofessional manner. I also feel disappointed in the head who I had held in high esteem previously. I feel that she needs to learn that this behaviour is unacceptable... what would you do?

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SecretMinceRinser · 19/01/2012 20:10

Well I would have been a bit peeved that they were brusque with you when your son was ill. In an emergency I would expect the school to be trying all contacts. If dd's school didn't try my mobile when I was out they wouldn't be able to get hold of me either. And if it had been that long why didn't they ring the emergency contact/s? I would have put my side across as you did and that would have been that.
BUT imo you were totally unreasonable to loudly call the head a cow for not answering you when she quite possibly didn't even hear you? Were you having a bad day or something? I think you definitely need to apologise for that. It probably wasn't great of her to be telling other parents you are difficult but, to be fair, she was likely feeling humiliated and undermined at the abuse she had publicly been given and didn't know what to say.

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