Oh dear, dd2 is not going to be happy. WWYD ??

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

Dd2 is in yr 7 and I've just had a letter from school congratulating her for being selected to swim for her house in the swimming gala.

It's lovely news but I already know that dd2 does not want to do it. Up until about a year ago dd had swimming lessons once a week and was good. She gave it up when she started her periods. I did try to persuade her not to but she was adamant.

The teacher she used to have for private swim lessons, is the swim teacher at the school, and so she knows what dd can do and so has put her in even though dd did say she didn't want to do it.

The school are quite pushy when it comes to taking part in things and I know they will not be impressed if she says no. I know that dd will be upset when i show her the letter.

I would like her to do it, but at the same time i'm not going to force her. Wwyd ??

[GwendolineMaryLacey]

If she doesn't want to do it then she shouldn't be forced to. It's certainly not up to the school to decide. Let her decide and back her up with the school.

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

Oh don't worry, if the school try and bully her into it then I will have words. They did a simila thing with dd1 and a hockey match once and I told them then that it wasn't on.

I have broached the subject of tampons with both dd's several times, but neither of them want to know. There are some ready and waiting in the bathroom should they change their minds.

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

I think I am going to ask her to have a good think about it over the weekend, and then if she really doesn't want to do it thats fine.

[seasidesister]

If I were you I would be supportive and give her the choice.

Congratulate her for being chosen. Explain that you noticed the coincidence of her period starting and swimming stopping, remind her that Rebecca Adlington has periods too. Then tell her she can choose to take part or not and that you will support her decision.

If she does choose not to take part, phone her Year Leader and explain the situation and that you respect your daughters decision.

She may decide when she is older to start swimming again.

[TheOriginalNutcracker]

I will do that seasider

I do hope that she takes it up again later on.

I'd never force her to do it. I absolutly hated pe when I was at school.