Dh and ds (7 months) away for 3 weeks

[BlingLoving]

Dh and I are going on holiday at the end of my mat leave. Dh has the opportunity to stay on, with ds, for an extra 3 weeks while I return to work. I cannot change my work dates so have to return.

Ds will be 7 months. The thought of him and dh being away for 3 weeks terrifies me. On the other hand, dh will be taking over my maternity leave but will be with family so this could be a good way to ease him into primary-care-giver role while also leaving me free to throw myself into first weeks back.

WWYD?

Bump? Please.

3 weeks is a long time, how about he comes home after 2?

Just me, but I could never have considered that when my dc were that age. I couldn't even leave DD ( 3.11) for that long. What has your DH said about it?

Get him to come home sooner- a big change you going back to work for you all and it will be added to by you missing them
For 3 weeks

i couldn't do it. sorry.

not because I wouldn't trust my dp or anything like that, i just couldn't be seperated from a 7 month old for 3 weeks, I would hate it
plus the selfish side of me wouldn't want them having more holiday

Personally I couldn't do it. I tried it once for 2 weeks when the DDs were 7 and 4- never again! Worried about them constantly, even though I knew they were fine! Maybe a week would be OK, but 3 weeks away from 7 month old sounds like a horribly long time. If nothing else, at 7 months old that's roughly 1/9 of his life

It's three weeks or we have to cancel the holiday completely. Too complicated to explain but to do with flights, costs, etc.

Ria - that's exactly it. I worry He will forget me!

hang on, you said he has the opportunity to stay on for an extra 3 weeks,
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now you are saying he HAS to or none of you can go at all?

if so then i would cancel the whole thing

Sorry, yes, was unclear in op.

Yes, dh and I are not feeling it's the right decision. But are devastated at cancelling trip.

Nope would not be able to do this at all. Rest assured though if you do do it he won't forget you at all - he will leap into your arms and not let go when he gets back. - I've seen it when my dad went away when my sister was a baby. It may make him clingy though. Personally I wouldn't give a moments entertainment to my baby being away (actually for that matter my husband being away) for so long. Seriously look at if there is anyway to change flights.

Why not, if he is up for it? Yes it is a long time for you, but it might be great for him bonding-wise and will give him huge confidence in taking over the childcare when you are back at work... If you trust him enough to be in charge when you are working, why not begin as you mean to go on?

He's seven months old - he wont forget you, you are his mum and always will be - it will feel like a lifetime for you - but they will be having a great time and isn't that part of the self sacrifice that you sign up for the moment they are born - he is not going to remember and hold it against you!!