Have done a thread years ago about this issue. DP spends all Saturday with DS at MILs, DP spends all morning with PIL on Sunday playing golf. Family time is limited to Sunday afternoon, oh and he likes to watch the grand prix too (I used to but am too busy entertaining DS now). Come hell or high water, week in, week out... for the past 5 years now.
History of PILs overstepping mark. Tried all the suggestions, nope, it suited him fine he was sticking to it.
Anyhow, he's changed job which means he gets a day off in the week (goes to golf) and works Saturday every other week. Mil was going to take DS out on her own, I said no, I have plans (she's slap dash with him and his stuff, she's fallen over, she's left full shopping trolley baskets on buses when she's with him, coats, hats, jumpers appear to be disposable .. with the comment oh never mind). And the agreement when he took this job and for playing golf during the week was that Sundays would be family days. The three of us do something together, just us. This would be every other week. And the alternate weekends would be as the first para.
So he comes home tonight, tomorrow being his first Saturday working and says that we've been invited to MILs for Sunday dinner (which would mean all day apart from the eating bit with DS on the Wii, me running outside every 5 minutes for a fag, PIL sequestered in the cellar where he lives and MIL and DP talking to each other incessantly). I have said that we have already discussed going outdoors somewhere on Sunday as it's going to be lovely, for the day, as previously agreed - so no. He is livid and not talking to me AGAIN not happy.
What would you do ... explode, say "yes, ok darling, we will have only 1 afternoon (2 hours max) together as a family every other week", or what?
Apologies for length - I am feeling a tad cross emotional.
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oldsilver · 30/09/2011 22:21
MMmh yes, he did manage 1/2 an hour after school this week with DS then went to bed cause he was tired 
There is no conflict or guilt with his parents - he just doesn't see the problem. The family unit includes the PILs, he doesn't understand that our family unit is important or indeed exists without the PILs.
I don't have family no contact for years so PILs have the monopoly on the GP front. Apparently all DS wants to do is spend free time with MIL - cause that's all he's ever known, apart from the fact she lets him play on the Wii all day to the extent he comes home with blisters on his hands 
I quote "grannie lets me do everything I want".
, I guess it's a case of what you're prepared to put up with for the next 10/20 years...
He is stressed apparently gave up smoking our relationship issues/starting different job/always slept a lot and has been getting up really early recently cause he can't sleep in the mornings apparently.
He was absolutely not a mummy's boy then - I would not have had anything to do with him if that was the case. It's only since DS was born.
Mmm yes, like her DD and her oldest DS1 - they don't have anything to do with him, and DD lives 80 miles away 
My dp is DS2.
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