If you are Jewish and your other half is Catholic?

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Has anyone got any advice about how best to handle this..my husband wants to have our daughter christened which is hard as I would prefer her to grow up and make her own mind up..has anyone brought a child up both religions??thanks..

difficult one, tbh I think you both need to sit down and decide which religion you want your child to be brought up in - it will be far too confusing to do both!, so one of you will have to take a back seat ( religion wise), surely you must of discussedd this before you married/decided to have children?

Yep and we decided to bring it up both but the catholic religion has more actual ceremonies to go through ie christening and then first communion whereas it would be better to teach then both and let the child decide..
I just wanted to know if anyone had dealt with similar issues..

Firstly, you can't backtrack just because Christianity has its ceremonies earlier than Judaism. What would you have done if your DD was a DS, would you be arguing over whether the boy was christened before his bris or after?

Ultimately, you can't bring the child up both religions except culturally. I doubt very much there is a vicar in the land who would confirm a child lined up for their bat mitzvah so one or both religious observances have to be ditched.

Totally agree with gwen one or both of them has to be ditched !

I was hoping for advice from people who have actually managed to bring kids up knowing about both religions as I think it should be possible.. One person ditching their religion isn't an option and I think my post was misinterpreted as we are working together to make it possible..

Knowing about both religions and being both culturally Jewish and culturally Catholic is perfectly possible, practising both religions isn't. It's unclear from your post which you are hoping to do.

Agree again, your child just can't belong to/practise both religions at the same time! surely you must see this ? fwiw I was not suggesting you or your husband ditch your beliefs !

It's not possible to be Jewish and Catholic. Unless you become Jews for Jesus, which probably won't make anyone happy.

Did you name your baby in the synagogue? That would have come first, if they let you.

I agree that you can culturally bring your dd up as both but not practicing. By that I mean that you can bring them up to reserve both holidays and celebrations but they will not be able to have christening and communion or any of the Jewish equivalents.
I would have imagined that to bring her up and educate her on both without these things that make her a member of that particular religion and church would be the only way to offer her both but still allowing her to choose.

Am I the only one concerned about the amount of guilt that this child is going to suffer? Jewish and Catholic, oy indeed!

To answer your question, I have a friend, Jewish mother, Catholic father. He is Jewish, not Catholic (he is v clear on this), but largely because his mother, although n/o was more observant than his father.

:o :o

but maybe they can go and and get absolution from a priest for breaking the 600 or so Jewish commandments? Then it could all work out...