Husband kicked in the back by wedding party - do I complain?

[marykat2004]

Hi, I'm just throwing this out there to see what anyone else might do. I am very angry but not sure if there is anything to be achieved by writing a letter of complaint.

Yesterday my family and I visited a stately home and gardens. The grounds and buildings are open to the general public. We paid to get in as visiting members of the public.

My husband has health problems, recently lost his father and was feeling tired. While I took our daughter to see the farm and maze, my husband had a rest on the grounds near some old buildings in a sort of villagey part of the grounds. While he was resting, lying down on a blanket, a wedding party turned up. Rather than asking my husband to move, someone kicked him in the back.

I find this behaviour outrageous. If you want a member of the public to move so you can do your wedding photos, then surely you cam ask them to move, rather than kicking them.

I would like to make it clear to the people who book weddings that since the area is open to the public, wedding parties should respect the public. I think the people that book weddings should be aware of this.

I tried to complain to someone yesterday but kept getting shoved from one catering staff to another and finally gave up, taking the name and phone number of the person who books weddings.

So, should I write a letter to male this known, or just forget about it?

Thanks for any input.

I certainly wouldn't post anything on Facebook. I would contact the police if someone kicked your husband as stated, how bloody dare they!

This thread is rapidly becoming VERY odd.

Do complain, though I'm not sure how far you'll get after the event - I would have made more of a fuss at the time. OP, would your DH recognise the kicker if he saw them again?

Didn't your husband say anything at the time? Was he hurt?

Lol at " has he a beard?"

Quote of the week

"and yes he does have a beard but that's no excuse to kick someone"

Am pmsl

Did they speak to your DH or ask him to move first, or just go in with the foot? Was it actually a kick, or did they prod him roughly with their foot to get his attention? Either way, it's not acceptable, but I'm finding it hard to see why someone at a wedding (presumably not yet drunk) would just randomly kick a man resting on a picnic blanket in parkland where he had every right to be.

Very very odd. Did the ensuing conversation get very aggressive or confrontational? We need more info, but I'm leaning towards saying that your DH should have called the police. But if he didn't consider it necessary then I really doubt there is much you can do about it now. The Bride and Groom are hardly going to give you the assailant's name now.

Well, I think police might be a bit extreme, there's not a lot that can be done, but I still think the venue, the wedding bookings people and perhaps the bride and bridegroom themselves should be aware (though it's too late for that). But there's not much that police could do at this stage. It becomes a big long thing if police are involved, and these days the police are stretched enough as it is.

Assult, anti social behaviour, gbh/abh..at any time to anybody.

You even paid to enter so you could argue thatthe stately home has more of a duty of care to your husband as you paid for the safe enjoyment of their services.

Do not allow yourself to be marginalised. Find out who the boss/operating company is and write a letter., mention that this has been an issue on mumsnet because you were so troubled about your treatment.

Which stately home was this, by the way?

Very sorry about your ruined day,and the distress of your family member.

That's true I suppose but people really shouldn't get away with this kind of thing

It's not gbh! And it would only be a b h if it resulted in a visible injury.

Was he injured
Does anyone know who kicked him

If no-one knows who the kicker was, and he wasn't injured enough to warrant a proper police investigation, then I don't know how far you're going to get TBH.

And agree there is no excuse for going around kicking people, no matter how prone or bearded they are

Was it an outright aggressive kick or a 'trying to get his attention nudge with a foot'...two completely different things .
Was he hurt?
What did your dh do/say?

Ok got carried away with the gbh thing, but if the husband thinks it was a deliberate act then a stiff letter is definately reqired!

Sorry this thread keeps making me think of midsomer murders for some reason

A prone bearded man on a picnic rug outside a stately home would make an excellent opening scene

..and was he holding a candlestick

shit,i only read the first few posts and have been upstairs kicking dp due to his beardiness...do i have to go and apologise to him...

weirdy thread this one,not sure who's on the wind up here!

I am suspecting he looked/sounded possibly sleeping and drunk. I am not condoning the 'kicker's' behaviour, but I suspect they had tried to get your DH's attention and had no luck, so gave him a light shove with a foot to rouse him, thinking he was perhaps under the influence, or ill/dead? An easy mistake to make with a weary, emotional, unfortunately bearded man I imagine.

It's the fact you have pointed out that DH has health probs, is recently bereaved, 'tired' and bearded. Why could was all that relevant, or justification for what he was doing? Can a regular non-breaved bloke not just fancy a doze on a picnic blanket in the grounds of a stately home? I'm thinking your DH may have been being a bit odd. Sorry, but it's the only conclusion I can draw unless you give more info. Still unacceptable to put your foot on him though.

I think it's worth contacting the police and at least ensuring that there is a reference number for the incident . Obviously you don't want to be specific about your husband's health problems, but if this incident is something that might have a long term impact health insurance companies tend to want everything recorded.

The manager's Teflon Shoulders response is appalling - of course it is his responsibility. I would ring back once you have reported it to the police , and let him know that you have reported it.

Hassling the bride and groom on FB won't help your case.

This is either something or nothing. Drunk idiot in wedding party rudelyy nudging with foot; can't do anything. Kick leaving mark/ injury ; tell police. End of really. As dh has a goatee should I kick him gently when he gets back?

I think an ear-flick would be about right for a goatee, grumpypants

HAAaaahahahaha. what's the penalty for a Tom Selleck style moustache?

What about Gary Barlow designer stubble? OK, don't answer that one. That particular punishment (should I ever encounter a prone, stubbled GB in a state of semi-conciousness on a blanket) would involve me having to take his pants down and put him across my knee.

Both, or just one?

Oh I got that wrong. I don't mean put GB across my knee, I meant put him between my knees. Silly me.

Is it really acceptable to nudge someone with a foot if they seem to need rousing, surely a hand on the shoulder is more appropriate? Yes, definitely write to the organisation in question.

How did your dp react? Did he see the person? Did he say anything? Was he upset or just you?