If your next door neighbours five year old child tol you that when they looked after you cats they...

[PippiLongBottom]

Slept in your bed?

Said 5 year old has ASD (this may or may not be relevant but I didn't want to drip feed)

Another neighbour told me that the mum, dad and ds had been spotted in the hours several times for periods of about 20 mins. They told her they were playing with the cats.

Their ds however told my 9 year old dd that he played with ds1's toys (one in particular is stored in the wardrobe so they must have had a good mooch) and that he had played with the mickey mouse toy that was in my wardrobe (this was hidden for ds's birthday which was when we were away).

He said that he had watched tv on ds's bed and that one night he slept in dd's bed and his mummy and daddy slept in my bed.

What the actual fuck????

Do I have to confront them? They won't be feeding the bloody cats again, that's for sure.

My 5yo with ASD can tell lies and also make up fantasy stories. He can tell the truth or omit the truth as he pleases. So I don't think that is going to be the key to solving the mystery unfortunately.

Surely you can tell by looking at all the stuff what has been touched/used etc?

But even if it is a big deal, there is absolutely nothing to be achieved by confronting them. Nothing was broken or stolen, you're not going to get a cleaning bill out of them and it was a month ago anyway. You won't ask them again whether or not they owned up and apologised. So it's completely pointless, except in a Justified Indignation sort of way, to confront them.

One of the dinner ladies in DS's school today told me he'd been telling her his name was David when I dropped him off this morning and shouted his real name, he has ASD and can lie too, quite convincingly sometimes, and he's only 4.

And it wasn't him getting confused as when she told me what he'd said he ran away laughing his little head off!