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If your next door neighbours five year old child tol you that when they looked after you cats they...

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PippiLongBottom · 16/09/2011 21:05

Slept in your bed?

Said 5 year old has ASD (this may or may not be relevant but I didn't want to drip feed)

Another neighbour told me that the mum, dad and ds had been spotted in the hours several times for periods of about 20 mins. They told her they were playing with the cats.

Their ds however told my 9 year old dd that he played with ds1's toys (one in particular is stored in the wardrobe so they must have had a good mooch) and that he had played with the mickey mouse toy that was in my wardrobe (this was hidden for ds's birthday which was when we were away).

He said that he had watched tv on ds's bed and that one night he slept in dd's bed and his mummy and daddy slept in my bed.

What the actual fuck????

Do I have to confront them? They won't be feeding the bloody cats again, that's for sure.

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 22:37

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thisisyesterday · 17/09/2011 22:39

pictish · 17/09/2011 22:41

Ooohh 'neighbour sex bed' hahahahaaaa!
Ohhhemmmgeeee!

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 22:46

What kind of fucking teasing biatches are you??? What if its true???

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PattySimcox · 17/09/2011 22:46

Agree that people with ASD can lie although when they do it is usually ridiculous, far fetched and often completely unbelievable - a combination of past experiences jumbled together for eg.

I think you certainly need to say something to the neighbours who may have had sex in your bed

QBEE · 17/09/2011 22:47

I think I wouldn't mention it.
Nothing was taken, no harm was done and your cats got fed.
In future you will not use them again I presume so why rock the boat, you have to live next door to these people.
I would have expected that they might spend time in the property if the current home they live in is cramped and squalorish. To sleep in your bed when they live next door must give you some insight to how their home situation must be surely?
To be quite honest I would have offered for them to sleep over at mine if it is as bad as you make out, you obviously trust them with a key. The couple who look after my animals when I am away live in a small house with several other adults and I pop fresh sheets on and offer them to stay at mine even though they only live down the road. It serves me more than them to have the house occupied while I am away as well.

pictish · 17/09/2011 22:49

I would let it slide too. What's going to be a chieved by confronting them? They will only deny it, I should think....and you'll never know one way or the other for sure.
Put it to bed and don't ask them again.

Urk!

pictish · 17/09/2011 22:50

Don't ask them to feed the cat again, that is.

StellaAndFries · 17/09/2011 22:52

I would scrub my body with bleach, burn the bedding and vow never to ask them again.

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 22:52

Wtf??? Qbee. Are you them? Seriously? Only on fucking mumsnet.

I donate to shelter but I don't actually operate one. Trusting someone with a key is entirely different to thinking 'oh well, they might sleep in my bed, but that's fine'.

Jesus.

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trixymalixy · 17/09/2011 22:53

I agree, you won't achieve anything by confronting them. Just don't ask them to feed your cats again and I would probably change the locks!

thisisyesterday · 17/09/2011 22:55

this is very true patty

ds1 told me that his teacher hits them all with cricket bats and when the head teacher came round they all had to fight her. that was just before she locked him in the guinea pig cage and squirted ketchup on him

the question i had asked was "what's that on your jumper?"

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ExitPursuedByaBear · 17/09/2011 22:57

Hey - your cats got fed. What do you hope to achieve by confronting them? Just don't ask them again.

zipzap · 17/09/2011 23:01

had you noticed that the mickey mouse toy had been played with?

Maybe you could mention it from that angle - that you were a bit upset that they played with that particular toy as it was obviously not out; that it was a present for your dc and he was upset when the other child told him that he'd already been playing with it... that you obviously would have been fine with the other child playing with the toys that were out whilst they were feeding the cats but a toy that has been hidden in the parents room is different - it's not fair game

Not quite as confrontational as discussing the sleeping at yours but enough to show them that you know that they were poking through your stuff and you are not happy about it.

And having read one of the other threads on here tonight - have you checked to see if anything is missing - somebody's baby sitter (neighbour's dd) had been pinching things from them. Stuff that you don't use very often - jewellery, passports (ok they might have been with you if you were away!), id for other stuff that might have been copied, bank statements that have your info on, etc... not nice to think about but probably worth having a look

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 23:02

Seriously? Your neighbours were rooting through your house and you think it's ok? FWIW I will leave it, but only because I feel sorry for the mother (not the 'alleged' culprits). If I told you all the full back story you would feel the same.

My gut instinct is that the playing with toys bit is true but the shagging sleeping in my bed, isn't. Maybe I should post in SN about ASD kids and their potential to fabricate stories.

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QBEE · 17/09/2011 23:03

Had it not been for the pesky kid I would have got away with it.

I spent at least three minutes a day (out of the twenty minutes I was in there) cleaning your sofa/worktops/bathroom floor after my fella finished playing with pussy.

You should be grateful

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 23:05

Zipzap, I hadn't noticed, no. But it's like I said further down the thread, I really wasn't looking for it. We arrived home at 1am and then got it out of the wardrobe to give to ds the next day. It was off eBay so wasn't new or anything and was unwrapped because ds2 was only 2.

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 23:06

Qbee . I've seen your house remember. I know you're not familiar with the dettol and a j-cloth.

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QBEE · 17/09/2011 23:08

A lot can be said for the abrasive power of spit and a waterfall cardigan sleeve...

thisisyesterday · 17/09/2011 23:09

he might have said it because he wanted it to be true?
ds1 does that sometimes

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PippiLongBottom · 17/09/2011 23:14

This is yesterday, yes, that sound feasible. He loves Ds1.

No waterfall sleeves QBEE, the apparel would make the S&B girls vomit en masse. People have different standards my mum tells me.

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PattySimcox · 18/09/2011 00:27

Could it be something as simple as parents were hunting for cat who had decided to hide / play silly buggers, meanwhile nosy kid goes wandering upstairs to look around, thinks "Wow this is a fab house full of lovely toys, I'd like to stay here". He has a mooch round, plays with stuff - remember if he has ASD then he will not necessarily have a sound grasp that this is inappropriate behaviour.

This then becomes wishful thinking on his part and weaved into a story.

FWIW I think those saying no biggie are frankly odd. Only in a dire emergency could I imagine my neighbours abusing my trust and sleeping in my bed - and then I would expect to be asked, or if unreachable then told in a very apologetic manner, and that they would have laundered the actual neighbour sex bed sheets

dizzyblonde · 02/10/2011 13:18

My ASD son can lie very convincingly and has always been able to.

CalamityKate · 10/10/2011 11:21

Yep, my Asperger's son can lie too. He crumbles very easily under pressure though; his conscience kicks in very quickly.

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