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Which would you consider more polite?

25 replies

TrillianAstra · 15/09/2011 13:38

You have posted a thread in AIBU: "Am I Being Unreasonable to get bantam hens for my back garden or should I get redcaps?"

This thread should clearly be in Chicken Keepers.

Which would you consider more polite?

A - Someone reports your post to MNHQ, and it gets moved. Nothing happens on the thread, you are not informed.

B - Someone posts on your thread "Did you know we have a Chicken Keepers topic? You are not really asking if you are being unreasonable."

Note: I picked Chicken Keepers because they are very good at putting chicken chat in the correct area :)

Inspired by dickiedavisthunderthighs's post here

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allhailtheaubergine · 15/09/2011 13:39

Erm... B, I think. It's nice and polite.

CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 13:40

I don't care. I just think you have too much time on your hands and should stop spamming MN.

TrillianAstra · 15/09/2011 13:42

If you think I am spamming then report me.

Someone suggested that reporting and moving was the correct thing to do so I thought I would open it up for discussion.

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CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 13:45

I already have and if you want everyting in order on MN, you should only be posting on mumsNOT as mn is a site by parents for parents. :)

DreamsOfSteam · 15/09/2011 13:46

spamming? Confused this is spamming and yet pointless posts about socks is not? Hmm

CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 13:48

Not this thread as such Dreams, just the constant jumping on threads and telling people where they should post. Tis annoying and disruptive.

TrillianAstra · 15/09/2011 13:48

Well that's not very polite, is it, telling someone they are not welcome?

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CaptainNancy · 15/09/2011 13:50

What a masterful PA smily there CharlieMcGee.

GrimmaTheNome · 15/09/2011 13:50

(B)

But on the whole I'd prefer C: mentally go Hmm and then respond to the thread as if it was in Chicken Keepers

CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 13:51

Neither is going to a thread and disrupting it and making it hard to concentrate on the actual thing the op asked about.

As I said on the other thread another poster used to bump unanswered threads about three times a day, in the end MN asked her to stop as it was disruptive as I feel what you are doing is.

HenriettaFarthingay · 15/09/2011 13:53

I don't care where anything's posted, if the subject interests me.

caughtinanet · 15/09/2011 13:55

I think A) is fine but with an email to explain why the move has happened.

otoh any thread that starts with "I know this isn't the right topic but ...." should be automatically moved to the delete folder Grin

CaptainNancy · 15/09/2011 14:15

Oh! Is that what happened to puzzlerocks? Sad
I wondered where she was. I thought it was helpful to bump unanswered threads? Shock

ShowMeTheMonet · 15/09/2011 14:16

A) plus email is better as it comes from HQ, not a randomer.

EdithWeston · 15/09/2011 14:19

I'd go for option D: answer the question where it is, but at at the end "Did you know there is a [link - chicken keeper's topic]? You might get better answers if you asked MNHQ to move your query there".

MediumOrchid · 15/09/2011 14:24

I think b) but you need to be politer - I think b) as it is written could still offend someone. How about:

"Did you know we have a Chicken Keepers topic? You might find you get more helpful responses there. Also, you're not really asking if you're being unreasonable, are you? Wink"

By the way, you know you're fighting a losing battle, don't you? You are never going to irradicate posts in the wrong topic!

CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 14:41

I think PR still posts but she mentioned MNHQ had asked her to stop posting.

CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 14:41

Stop bumping, rather.

TrillianAstra · 15/09/2011 14:47

I understood the "please look at Unanswered Threads" thing, but bumping it if you know nothing at all about the situation isn't very helpful.

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gramercy · 15/09/2011 14:52

I go on another forum (nothing to do with mums!) and there is a moderator who speedily sweeps any wayward posts into the correct category.

I agree that I find it most irritating when you see "AIBU to ask how you cook sausage stew?" etc etc.

Or the ones that start off immediately, "I know IANBU but can you answer this as it gets more traffic..." NO! I make a one-woman stand against such posts and purposely ignore them.

CharlieMcGee · 15/09/2011 14:59

I understand that Gramercy, and I do agree it is annoying when someone posts as they know they will get more traffic but equally annoying is someone popping up who is not a mod and telling the op what to do. As MN states over and over if you see something you don't like or you think is wrong then hit the report button.

I hate it when I see posts trying to advertise for free but I tell MN and get an email telling me they are sorting it, it is not my place to order other posters about.

festi · 15/09/2011 16:37

neither of the above

just leave my thread well alone, if it offends you being in an inapropriate place in your standerds, then just off my thread.

Wink
colditz · 15/09/2011 16:45

but mn has always been lightlymoderated, it's never been modded to death because it's never needed to be. Unfortunately, there are some real dim-wads hanging around the AIBU forum now, so or course things are going to kick off, when people who aren't as dim challange their dim behavior.

TA - (B)

TrillianAstra · 15/09/2011 17:39

Have I just been complimented?

"not as dim as a dim-wad"

Thanks :o

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Meteorite · 21/09/2011 14:36

Neither.

AIBU appears to be used mostly for miscellaneous decision-making.

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