we're new together, and given my position of single mum with small child need to be careful and wary. I found out about this because I had thought he was still in contact with his ex so went snooping (yes I know, invasive etc). On one hand contact with her has ceased, on the other I discover he has an active profile on Gaydar, the gay pick up site advertising his desire for 'always up for horny f**k buddies'. He claims it is from the past but having set up my Gaydar honeytrap profile (yes I've got trust issues) can see he logged in on sunday night - ie. the minute he is apart from me. He claims he received notification of a message so was 'just curious'. Suffice to say this is eating me up - that the person I am falling for has this really quite seedy not so past past. I just want to run a mile. Maybe he's just window shopping? But what if he is seeking solace in whoever the hell he can the minute he's alone? help!