Children's Party Angst #48575

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So it seems that dd1 is the only child in the class who hasn't had an invitation to a party over the Easter hols.

I'm 99% sure that she hasn't been intentionally uninvited - the birthday boy and his mum were distributing invitations this morning amidst a chaotic scene of Easter bonnets and drawer-emptying and I suspect dd1's invitation is lying underneath a bookcase somewhere.

I was so sure she'd been invited that I started asking her about it on the way home, only to be tearfully told that everyone else had been invited except her.

Obv school has broken up now and I don't have the mum's number, so I'm not sure how to pursue it, or whether it's worth pursuing. I've told dd1 I'm sure it's a mistake and she hasn't been left out on purpose but this is small compensation when you're 7 and all your mates are going to the party.

Would you try to contact the mum in question to ask? Or would you leave it?

(I'm assuming it's a whole class party btw, as this particular mum has done those for the last couple of years, and all dd1's friends - not special friends of the boy - have been invited.)

Was she invited last time? Any reason to think that it might not be everyone this year and just a small group?

Yes, she has been invited both times before. The reason I think it's a whole class thing & not a small group is because all the invitations were being handed out in front of everyone first thing in the morning - and the boy's mum even asked me to point out a couple of the girls she didn't know! Which I imagine she wouldn't have done if she knew she wasn't inviting dd1.

Why do you need to pre sure it the child dosent want your child at her party sorry to be harsh but their is a life lesson you don't always get invited to peoples party

To be honest I would be a bit pissed if I were the mum if you contacted me it would make me feel like I had to invite your lo god if you cannot have who you want at your own party

And if the child is just being mean why would you want her to go?

Dd1 knows you don't get invited to everyone's party.

I just think this was a whole class party and the invitation got lost in the mix. I've never known of a whole-class-except-for-one party, which makes me think it's a mistake.

Do you know anyone that knows her well and has her number? If so, get them to ask for you, as part of a chat about something else.

If I had her number, I would send her a text and just ask. It does sound like she has been invited, so there would be nothing to gain by not asking. Your poor dd - hell on earth when you're 7. Hope it all works out.

Oh, sorry, you don't have her number. Is there anyone else who might have?

If you just leave it the mother will think you are rude for not replying.

Can you find her of face book?

Do you know where she lives?

I would try to contact her.

Lynette, yes, this is also my worry. I get irritated when people neither RSVP nor show up on the day. She will need to know numbers.

Dd1 is having a couple of friends round on Tue, I will ask their mums if they have a number for her. I'm 99% sure that birthday boy's mum will be mortified to know that an invitation went astray - she REALLY doesn't strike me as somebody who would deliberately exclude a child from a whole-class party.

Thanks .