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re potential harrassment on facebook

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:05

I will try to keep this brief. What do you think would constitute harrassment on Facebook ?
Last year I received malicious emails from my OH ex, basically slagging me off etc then she got her daughter to do the same and then her mate to do the same. I blocked them all Facebook but kept getting friend requests from female Facebook users that I did not know and that had no link whatsoever to me via friends or any other way.
I then set my privacy settings so that only friends can see me.

I thought that was the end of the matter but then on Monday evening I had a friend request from her 13 year old daughter ! I cannot think of any other reason that this girl would want to add me except that it is her mother(she is friends with my OH daughters which is how she could friend request me) trying to get through to me to try and stir trouble.

I may sound like a right wuss but I felt quite intimidated, I did not reply to any of the emails that were sent last year.
I was wondering if what she is doing constitutes harrassment and should I report her to Facebook. I think that using a 13 year old child in this way is despicable.

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ConnorTraceptive · 06/04/2011 10:06

Just delete your facebook account. There really is no real reason a grown up NEEDS to be on facebook.

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:09

I think that would depend on each persons situation. I live 150 miles away from my family and we use facebook to share photos etc and it is cheaper than calling or texting.

My dd is on facebook and I then keep an eye on what is going on with her and her friends. We have also just found out that her sister who she hasn't seen for 9 years is on facebook and are waiting to see if she will accept my daughters friend request.

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:10

I also use Facebook as a way of communicating with other students on my OU course which has been a huge help

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virginiasmonalogue · 06/04/2011 10:11

Can't you just ignore friend requests off people you don't know?

SpringchickenGoldBrass · 06/04/2011 10:14

Connortraceptive: that's shitty advice. Why should the OP lose out on a resource because of arseholes trying to bully her? Facebook is useful for people who live a long way from their families or good friends, as it's a very cheap and convenient way to keep in touch.
Moomoo: ignore the teenager's friend request and block her. If you receive any more nasty emails save them and have a think about reporting the senders to the police, particularly if they contain threats.

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:16

I have blocked them but it just freaked me out a little bit that she is obviously still trying to cause trouble after more than a year of the vicious emails. I have done nothing to this woman to warrant this crap, I have never even met her and she lives luckily in another town. I was considering reporting her to FB in the hope they may either warn her off or shut her account down

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:18

virginiasmonalogue : I did ignore it but it was the fact she is obviously being malicious enough to involve her 13 year old daughter and it brought back all the crap from the emails she sent me last year which I only deleted last month

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:22

and my second to last post should have read "more than a year since the emails"

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TheProvincialLady · 06/04/2011 10:30

Blimey there are some tragic people out there aren't there? Why on earth would this woman want to harrass you? Because that is what she is doing, harrassing you, and as it has continued for so long with no sign of stopping I would seriously consider contacting the police. No need to make a song and dance of it, but if an officer was to visit and advise her to stop contacting you then I bet she would stop straight away. She is being pretty persistent isn't she? What a sad loser. She can't be very secure in her relationship with your ex can she?

ConnorTraceptive · 06/04/2011 10:30

Each to their own I guess. I guess because I don't use it I don't see it as something that would be hard to give up and you DO see alot of MN threads complaining about grief through facebook so it does make me wonder if it worth the hassle.

Nothing else you can do other than ignore all requests and report any threatening messages.

Sorry my first reply wasn't particularly friendly

Tommy · 06/04/2011 10:35

are you sure that the other woman had told her daughter to "befriend" you? I have a couple of teenagers as friends and their friends are always asking me to be their friend and I've never met them! I think they just like having a big number next to their "Friends" list
You can tell FB that you don't know them when you reject their friendship request

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:36

Thats ok I also use it to sell Avon so because I have restricted my privacy settings it is restricting that too

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BluddyMoFo · 06/04/2011 10:37

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:39

TheProvincialLady - she is my partners ex lol but she is still very sad. I did think about the police but thought maybe trying FB first. I feel a little that I am overreacting but I haven't had much sleep the past two nights.

Tommy - I just couldn't think why else a 13 year old girl would want to befriend a 40+ woman that she doesn't know and with this woman getting her other daughter/mate to email me thought this would go the same way

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:40

BloodyMoFo - lol yes I agree with that one Smile

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ginnny · 06/04/2011 10:53

Just ignore and block. Its not worth calling the police imo.
My DP's ex wife and her sister tried to add me when we first got together.

I think it was just nosiness on her part - she wanted to see what I looked like - silly cow has an open profile so I had a good look at her hideous photos and then blocked her.

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 10:58

lol to ginny, yes I must admit before I blocked the ex I did check out her pics and when I asked my ex how long he had been with her for he replied with "too damn long"

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DELHI · 06/04/2011 12:53

I would just completely ignore her and block anything that might be connected to her. She's clearly a sad case who doesn't have much else to do. She'll get bored eventually and you have a life to get on with.

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moomoo1967 · 06/04/2011 13:34

Thanks for all your replies. Delhi - I have blocked her but all she does is find someone else to send me a friend request. At this rate I will end up with my blocked list being about 30 people lol

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