Should I speak to my neighbour about noisey headboard at 4am?

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This is quite silly but I thought it might be worth asking for any constructive advice. My neighbour is a single male (or at least, I assume he is single!) and he lives alone in the house next door to ours (semi-detached). Whenever he picks up a woman and brings her home, they ?get busy? but always at stupid times for example, last week 4.30am on a Friday morning and Sunday night, 4am (or should I say, Monday morning at 4am!). The reason I know this is because the walls are thin and the headboard of his bed bangs, loudly, against the wall and wakes me and DP up. This banging (pun intended) usually goes on for at least an hour and neither of us can sleep, just lie awake getting more and more angry at his lack of consideration and wondering how much longer it can go on!

I want to say something to him along the lines of ?please move your bed away from the wall!!!!? but we really do not know him very well ? only seen him a handful of times since we came here about 18 months ago and said hello on those occasions. He doesn?t seem to have a job although he does drive a white van. I would like to ask him to move bed away from the wall slightly as he wakes me up at silly o'clock when I have to get up at 6 for work, but how? WWUD? I have invested in ear plugs but they cannot fully block it out. I cringe at the thought of bringing it up with him. The options are, get over the cringeyness and say something OR invest in better ear plugs.

Bizarrely, most weekends some friends of his pull up outside in their car. The beep the car horn several times to get his attention. He goes to the window and they have a shouted conversation, from the window to the car. Sometimes, they turn the car off and go in. Sometimes, they shout the conversation for 10 minutes or so, then just drive off!! This also angers me, as the whole street does not want to hear their conversations. How hard is it to go to the front door?!

But, the main issue is the headboard noise. The shouting conversation is just odd. Any constructive advice on how I could approach the issue?

I have friends who had this problem. Their headboard backed onto the wall of their neighbour's so they literally heard everything!!!!

In the end, after being polite and asking not very subtly whether they do a lot of hammering , they spoke to them about it.

Don't think they were very pleased about being told but the noise did stop.

Perhaps something along the lines of:

"it's lovely that you have a great sex life, but I wondered if you could move the bed away from our adjoining wall slightly?"

He can only say no and at best (after slight embarassment on your part and his), he'll move it. Job done.

Could I really bring myself to say "you have a great sex life" to a virtual stranger?! Hehe! He is also very buff with ginormous biceps, quite well groomed as they say, and looks like the kind of man who shaves his chest and uses fake tan. My face would be

I could go in with the hammering line though, "are you doing some home improvements at the moment? I heard you hammering for hours last night"!

Wink and say "enjoy yourself last night then did you?"

That may be taken the wrong way though

I have considered getting a noisy headboard for our bed and give him a run for his money!

Thanks for replies, I need to psych myself up to saying something really...!

You could always pop a note through his door (to avoid face to face) saying:

'not sure if you know, but the walls between our bedrooms are very thin. Hope you don't mind us mentioning it but we wondered whether you could adjust your bed away from the wall a little?'

Loving all the "hammering" questions.

Gosh your hammer was a bit loud last night Mr Neighbour. lol

Many thanks for replies, the note would be a good way to avoid face to face embarassment.... if someone was trying to speak to me about a problem such as this, I would prefer them to use a vague hint along the DIY lines.

DP so cross he bangs the wall with his fist during "pauses" - doesn't make any difference, although I worry he will accidently punch a hole through the wall!