Should I remove my child from her lessons ?

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Tis a long one sorry but pls I'd like advice if you have the patience to read this

My son is in year 9 . For about a year now he has been having problems with one of the teachers at his school.
By the sounds of it she doesn't like him and he doesn't like her either.
He can be a bit of a cheeky thing that is easily distracted. But on the whole he is a good boy and the teachers say ' if only he wasn't so easily distracted he'd do so much better'
The teachers like him.

Anyway, I can't remember for what reason exactly, he was removed from this particular teachers class, they were clearly unable to be in the same class as eachother. He was removed for about for about 2 months, we had a meeting, he promised to behaved and she promised to listen to him, his issue was he was being ignored and wasn't being listened to.

Last week he went back into her lessons.

I got a text from him yesterday in school saying he'd had his hand up for 10 minutes and she was completley blanking him, other children had noticed this and commented 'she is deliberately blanking you'. He wanted out of her lesson, I told him to wait and I phoned the school to get 'on call' to remove him before it all kicked off and he ended up being thrown out.

Too late, by the time i'd phoned and explained I wanted on call out of that lesson, she'd already called them and they were removing him.

He was livid.

I researched and found out the lesson he was taking wasn't compulsory for the cirriculum so I went up there all ready to permanently remove him for that particular subject.

Turns out its all hush hush at the moment but she is in fact leaving at Easter. It's not been confirmed but rumours are she is to leave before she is pushed leaving with her record intact. My son isn't the only one that she's had issues with, someone I went to school with said that she'd locked her nephew in a cupboard and my cousin has removed him from her lessons due to 'issues'.
I had a coffee with a friend yesterday and she said her son is also having problems with this teacher.

So, question is , do I remove him from her lessons until she has gone or does he sit tight until Easter running the risk of it all kicking off and he being punished for being removed??

Thanks

IIWY, I would leave him in the lessons. It really isn't long before easter.
Why did he have a mobile at school? I know my DHs school doesn't allow them, possibly for the reason you just illustrated. Children bleating to their parents and the parents contacting the school.

I think if it´s only until Easter he should stick it out.

I´m sure there´s more too it-but he had his hand up, she didn´t ask him, he wanted out of the lesson?

I think there's more to this than your DS is telling you. Tbh, and this from a mother who has had a disruptive DS, the disruption in the lessons is the main thing that stops other children in the class learning. It's all very well (as I did) saying he's a nice lad, etc, but the fact is his behaviour in the past has caused problems.

the other children in the class were telling him that she was blanking him, waiting for something to kick off. They were not on his side, they just wanted a bit of entertainment.

I wouldn't take him out of the lessons. You need to sit him down and tell him that this is how life is. The teacher is sort of the boss and if he were in work he would have to learn strategies how to deal with the situation. I think it's a good life lesson for him, actually.

Also, just to add, my DS was told it was not his academic ability alone that determined the set he was in, but behaviour. The top sets did not want disruptive pupils. They were children who wanted to learn. He is doing himself a disservice by being disruptive. I know that it will be hard for him, as it was for my own DS, but it really is the best thing if he can try not to be disruptive.

"the other children in the class were telling him that she was blanking him, waiting for something to kick off. They were not on his side, they just wanted a bit of entertainment."

I think that that sounds as if it could be right.

Why is it such a big deal for him not to get asked when his hand is up?

Do you know the situation re her leaving is correct?? If it is I think it is appalling. The kids in your son's school will be being saved but she will go and spreadf unhappiness elsewhere. The bosses should be utterly ashamed of themselves.

If I were in your position and I thought that would happen I'd make a formal complaint now......so her record wasn't quite so polished.

I am not saying that your son ins completely innocent as I don't know all the facts, maybe he is or maybe not. However she is the adult and it is her JOB to treat all the children in her class with dignity and respect, not to behave like a spoiled child ignoring the kids she doesn't like!!

School is a hard enough place for kids without unhelpful adults making it harder.

Hugs to you. xx

Thanks for the replies guys, alot to take on board and very helpful advice and best wishesd ..there's been an update

She's gone WOOHOO. Apparently gone sick for the remainder of the time until Easter and she HAS got a blemish on her record as there was too many complaints against her.,

I just wish i'd have known of this sooner and I would have put in a complaint. Hopefully my DS1 will be much happier in school

I as his mother do not think for one minute she was completley to blame I do understand that my DS1 is not entirley blamless

'"the other children in the class were telling him that she was blanking him, waiting for something to kick off. They were not on his side, they just wanted a bit of entertainment."'

Children used to do similar things frequently to my son, because they could push him into meltdown and then watch the show.