Not sure if this is the right place to post this but just wanted some opinions.
Background - My cousin and his wife were married for 25 years, everyone thinking they were very happy (including the couple themselves). They had been through some difficult times, not problems with their relationship but other things in the family that would have tested the strongest of marriages. After 25 years everything had settled down and they seemed to be a happy couple looking forward to their old age together. Then my cousin's wife found out he was having an affair and ultimately the marriage ended.
My relationship with them is very distant, I'm 10 years younger than them and have lived far away for years (last 10 years in different countries). It is really just restricted to Christmas cards and meeting very,very occasionally (last time my Dad's funeral). But I have always liked my cousin's wife very much, one of the loveliest people I have ever met really. When my cousin left her I contacted her outside when we normally do and wrote to her saying what an idiot he was and I hope that eventually she would find some peace and happiness in life (at my Dad's funeral she thanked me and said that had helped).
So, a few weeks ago I received a letter saying that she was remarrying - clearly she is very happy and I am really pleased for her that she has now found some happiness.
But the question is should I send her a gift for the wedding? I would like to, just to say I hope she will be very happy, but given the limited contact we have had would that seem odd? Much as I like her I also don't really want to start something that is going to lead to more contact, we really are very different and I don't want her to feel obliged that she has to stay in touch more than what we do. It's really just a way of saying I'm so pleased that things have worked out for her (if a present can say that). So should I send a gift or not? A card alone seems inadequate to express how happy I am for her.