What's the done thing after a party?

[WildAndCrazyHorlicksDrinker]

Thank you card? They're only 4 so I'll be doing it anyway!

Anyone? :)

Most parents would appreciate a phone call or email from you, the child's parent, stating how much your own dc enjoyed the party.

No
the birthday person should write a thank you card for their present

I always have DD write thank you cards. She's 8y now so does it herself.

At 4y I'd have probably done a photo with generic thank you and have DD write her name underneath. Or have DD draw a picture and scan it to use as a thank you letter.

I usually send tyou emails. If the person didn't get to see my DC open their present, I add a specific tyou for the gift. I usually add on a photo from the party (if its email).

Do you mean it was your 4 year old's party? - many people do write thankyou notes for the presents after a birthday party.
If it was a party your 4 year old attended, then no you're fine. Taking a gift with you is enough.

Sorry, I wasn't clear - we attended the party. We did remember a gift so I won't bother with a card. Thanks!

Sorry, OP, I misunderstood. In that case, I always figure that having bothered to go and take a gift is enough!!

Ah, I misread.

You went to the party?

No, you don't need to send a thank you after going to a party. I assume you or your little one probably said thanks for inviting me on the way out anyway, that is enough.

I always felt that DC were excused from writing thank you notes for attending a party, and the birthday child for their gift.

Sort of the one thank you cancelled the other out .

They have to write thank you notes to everyone else for their pressies though!!

Actually DS is now at uni, and has written them without nagging - as he's knows it's up to him now.

I think if you want to make better friends with the hosts it would be nice to send a text saying, "what a great party, [DC] really enjoyed it."

I agree with LCarbury