Did I act too soon?

[assumpta]

Hi my dd 11, came home the other day saying a boy had said to others in the class that she had a moustache. She has dark hair, is fairly fair skinned, and going through puberty. I had noticed a bit of hair, but thought once the sun came out that it may have gone fair and therefore not noticeable. She had cried about it, and having had a friend when I was young that had a similar problem, albeit worse, that made her life a misery, I decided to take immediate action. I brought her to the local beauty shop, and had it waxed. The girl there was brilliant and when I spoke to her beforehand, she said that they did waxing on young girls that had similar teasing. This was a week ago, and I am now worried that I may have made it worse when it grows back. I presume it will have to be a certain length before waxing again, and will it be darker. I bought some facial cream hair remover today and some facial bleach, but don't know what to expect. Has anyone being through this? Any advice welcome. Thankyou.

Oh good on you for taking her to a beauty salon. I can recall years ago seeing a young girl come out of a salon with a red mark on her upper lip and her mother with her. And I thought "top mum." Mine let me grow it until I could plait it.

I personally think waxing is the best option. After many goes the hair appears finer and not so noticeable. It also lasts for longer. There are some Veet strips you can buy to use at home but obviously not so effective as a salon waxing.

But for ease of use and for home, the cream is good.

I also think waxing is the best option, it won't be darker when it grows back in. Maybe have a word with the beautician about how best to proceed?

Have you heard of nads?

its waxing and really easy to do at home, i mean you do it for her, not herself!

ive found my 'tash has gone lighter and finer after waxing with this

same with my eyebrows.

SIL told me best long term results are by waxing on the virgin hair before ever shaving/creaming whatever. DN won't let her do her underarms yet (shes just 9 but has had some hair for a year!) and I guess I will get my dds done once they have something to remove just makes life easier in the long run tbh.

Waxing is definitely the best option for it. The hair grows back softer and not as dark. The first regrowth will seem to come through really quick (a couple of weeks or so) but the more you do it, the less regrowth you get.

And well done for taking her. My mum didn't buy me a razor til I was 14 and I didn't get pocket money so I could get it myself, I got teased horribly for it :(

It won't grow back darker because it has been waxed, it will be darker as the sun hasn't had chance to bleach it.

Thank you for your support, I hoped I hadn't panicked, but I didn't want it to become an issue, I just kind of said 'ah, that's no problem, we can fix it straight away', but then worried I had acted in haste and would repent at leisure, but hopefully not. Do any of you think I should bleach while waiting for regrowth, or cream it off, or just wait. I'm afraid if I wait too long that it will become an issue again with this child and that others will then say 'oh yeah we see what you mean' and make her really conscious of it.

I have not heard of nads. I bought boots own remover and bleaching kits, but the lady there was really sweet and said that her daughter used it.

I would just watch and see how it does growing back. I would try to go for the waxing option again and not use other products inbetween if the regrowth isn't spotted by the eagle-eyed peer group.

Pancake - would it be ok to pluck one or two if I see them poking through before the rest?
Will it all come through as stubble, if so, won't it be really noticeable? If that is the case, I thought a bit of bleaching would help till long enough to wax?

Cargirl - glad that I did best by waxing, but did your sil say why it is better to do it first without any other treatment?

Personally I wax when I feel teh need to and pluck as necessary in between. I get comparitively dark and coarse hairs on teh edges (that is the way that it has always been - nothing to do with the waxing), and finer, paler hairs under my nose which don't actually need anything doing with.

So I wax, and as I see individual dark hairs coming through I pluck them. The fine hairs don't bother me. Once I have quite a lot fine hairs come through I let the dark hairs get to waxing length (which isn't too long on face) and wax. (if that makes sense). I normally end up Waxing about every 6 weeks, and but pluck half a dozen hairs per week in between (less in the first couple of weeks after waxing).

You might want to get her an exfoliating facial scrib so she doesn't get ingrowing hairs.

Ok, thanks. Yes good idea about the face scrub. What do the ingrowing hairs look like? Would it be itchy and sore? Or spotty?

i really wouldn't bleach or use removal cream. Besides the more obvious hair regrowth they can both cause allergic reactions. My sisters face swelled up really bad after using removal cream on it.

i really would get some nads strips

they pick up really fine hairs so you don't have to wait for it to be 'really noticable' again before you can re-wax.

Totoros- I will get some today. I just wonder if she will tolerate me doing it. You know how different it is if you go to some one that you feel you can't scream at, you seem to have a better pain threshold, rather than some one you can go mad with. As a novice waxer, don't do it myself, would these be easy to use. I don't want to rip her lip!

Assumpta - you sound like you're worrying too much! You did absolutely the right thing!

Pop back to the salon as and when needed - no big deal for you or her :)

Ok. Will do blow.

Sorry meant to say 'Bloo'

Sorry found this a bit late! I've got a facial epilator (tiny little thing) if you can find one she could use it herself whenever she felt the need. It just pulls the hairs out (motorised plucking) but its not that painful. I suffer with ingrowing hairs after waxing so this suits me better. Well done for helping her deal with it.

Good for you! My mother never did anything for either my sister or me as regards unwanted hair.
I bleach my "moustache", or, if there are only 1 or 2 very dark hairs I pluck them out. Have had the area waxed, but didn't like the effect.
By the way the hair didn't grow back any thicker after waxing. If it is very dark hair, could you look at laser removal as a more permanent option? I'd do this like a shot if I had the spare cash (and could find a competent practitioner in my area).

Hi, I first posted about a month ago, having had my dd's upper lip waxed. This is heading for 5 weeks ago this week. I have kept an odd eye on the regrowth and was ready to cover all avenues. Into the second week a couple of noticeable ones were coming back, so I just plucked them out. Last week I applied the tiniest amount of boots hair lightener, and all is fine so far. I will probably take her back next week to have it redone if required. I am so glad I just took her without too much thinking and feel I definitely did the right thing.