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Should we leave kids with the in laws to go to wedding abroad?

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Linnet · 06/03/2011 23:40

We've been invited to a wedding abroad. It will be half the cost if just dh and I go for the weekend and leave the dd's behind.

dd2 has never had a night away from home before, we've never had to go anywhere and leave her behind and there is nobody near to us that we could leave her with anyway, able bodied grandparents all live hundreds of miles away so not really able to drop by for a nights babysitting or kids go to them for the night. Dd1 is much older and has stayed away from home overnight many times friends sleepovers etc.

Fil has offered to take dd's to Euro disney for the weekend that we are at the wedding. I'm not sure if dd2 would cope with being away from us for the weekend, she's a bit clingy especially with me, plus father in laws wife,second marriage, can be very unrealistic in her expectiations of how small children should behave not having had any children of her own. Dd2 can be a bit outspoken when she wants to be, quite a stubborn little character.

On one hand the thought of dh and I having a weekend alone together for the first time in over 15 years really appeals, even though it will cost an arm and a leg to go but I'm worried that I'd spend the whole weekend worrying about how dd2 is behaving and whether or not fil and his wife are managing to keep up with dd's.
Dh seems to think that it would do dd2 the world of good to spend sometime without us.

What would you do?

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hmc · 06/03/2011 23:43

for me the clincher is:

"I'm not sure if dd2 would cope with being away from us for the weekend, she's a bit clingy especially with me, plus father in laws wife,second marriage, can be very unrealistic in her expectiations of how small children should behave not having had any children of her own."

I wouldn't for that reason...

However if your dcs were staying with family that they were uber comfortable and relaxed with,it would be a different matter - but it doesn't sound like that is the case?

MirandaWest · 06/03/2011 23:44

How old are DD1 and DD2?

I think you and your DH going on your own is a great idea, but I would be wary of your DDs going to Euro Disney for the first time of DD2 being without you IYSWIM. That would be likely to be a very exciting experience and might be a bit much for DD2?

hmc · 06/03/2011 23:46

Absolutely - even the most compliant children can get a bit strung out and irrational when over stimulated by the whole Disney thing (am a Disney veteran!)

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Linnet · 06/03/2011 23:50

Sorry didn't put ages in, they'll be 7 and 14, not exactly tiny kids I know. I feel I'm being a bit ridiculous at times.

They do get on very well with in laws, it's just that fil's wife as I said can be a bit impatient with dd2 expecting her to act older than she is iyswim.

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Linnet · 09/03/2011 22:07

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