Should I ask lodger to leave?

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First baby due in 10 weeks (very excited!) Currently live in 3 bed house with male lodger in the 2nd bedroom. Don't know whether to ask him to leave.

For keeping him: Money is useful, he's a great guy, he is happy to stay/ not put off by the idea of a baby, space is manageable, he would be around in the mornings so may be good to have someone else there?

For asking him to leave: Privacy. He works shifts so would be there every morning. Do I really want someone else there for the first month when I'm recovering/ getting used to what one earth I'm supposed to be doing?!

My other half really isn't fussed either way and will support whatever I want to do. Anyone experienced something similar or can think of any points I haven't considered?

if you have a good relationship bwith him, then i would keep him :)

Keep him, he can make the coffe, hold the little one while you get a shower, theres lots he can do to help :o

He might well move of his own accord once he finds out how vocal new borns can be!

Thanks for suggestions, I hadn't considered the coffee maker! I'm thinking I will see how it goes and review it after the first 6 weeks, like you say it may be more disruption than he realises...

you should have a chat with him, he may be feeling like he wants to go but doesnt want to land you in it financially at the same time you're having a new baby, and money could be tighter.

Or, he might not give two hoots and think it's all cool - one of my close friends lodged with a family when they had their first baby, he was used as live in baby sitter and baby holder so that mum could pop out for a walk and have some space - and made him an excellent caring guy - just depends :)

Would you be comfortable breastfeeding in front of him?
I agree with those who said that if he is easy going and the money is useful, let him stay.

I have already spoken to him about it and he's easy either way. He would like to stay as he really likes the house/ location/ set up with us at the moment. Equally he would totally understand if we wanted the space/ privacy and asked him to go.

This is my problem: no one else minds, it's all down to me!