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if someone defriends you or ignores your friend request is it ok to ask them why?

18 replies

wannabesocialworker · 09/02/2011 20:21

I think the answer to this is no. But would it be really rude/weird if I did?

2 people who I used to be best frineds with and drifted away from rather than fell out with have done this to me on facebook. I'm quite a sensitive person so this has hurt a bit. If they were just doing a random clear out or just didnt respond to friend requests to people they dont currently see IRL then fine. But I'd like to hear them say it rather than have all these negative thoughts going around in my head.

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DrNortherner · 09/02/2011 20:23

No definately not. It's not real life, doesn't mean they hate you and you are perfectly entitled to remove whom ever you wish from FB without ever having to justify it.

Leave it.

eviscerateyourmemory · 09/02/2011 20:24

I dont think it is worth doing. I think it is a bit odd, tbh, and if I had negative feelings about a person them doing this would only make me think worse of them.

Would you believe what they said anyway? Or might you think they were telling a white lie?

balloonballs · 09/02/2011 20:26

No, no, no! For the love of all that is holy walk away from it.
Please, life is way too short!

ChickensHaveNoEyebrows · 09/02/2011 20:27

No. It would be very awkward all round.

Pinner35 · 09/02/2011 20:27

No....preserve your dignity.

Goober · 09/02/2011 20:28

It would look very needy, desparate.

Guacamole · 09/02/2011 20:28

Only if you're willing to be either ignored again, or don't mind when they turn around and say it's because they can't stand you.

MaureenMLove · 09/02/2011 20:31

No, don't do that. It may make you even more sensitive!

Everyone operates their Facebook differently. I have loads of people, half of which I don't speak to very often and others only have people that they are definately going to speak to. I don't think it'll be personal, that's just the way it is!

vickster11 · 09/02/2011 20:52

I personally clear out my fb once every 6 months. I find an old friend we chat for about a week then nothing.

I just want people I see and speka to on a regular basis its nothing personal.

TheMonster · 09/02/2011 20:54

It would be extremely needy to ask why, in my opinions. It's Facebook, not real life.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 09/02/2011 20:54

They could have left Facebook altogether. Some of my friends activate and deactivate quite a lot.

usualsuspect · 09/02/2011 20:55

No, best just to leave it ..its only fb

whomovedmychocolate · 09/02/2011 20:59

No don't - I've had people defriend me on FB and I only notice when FB suggests them as friends for me and I think 'hang on, aren't they already in my friend list' Hmm

Lots of people use FB purely for online friendships, ie they don't want real life interfering. So they regularly defriend people who they would be embarrassed if they read their posts.

domesticslattern · 09/02/2011 21:00

Noooooooo!

said · 09/02/2011 21:04

I'm going to say Do it because I'd love to know how it pans out. Grin Go on, Do it!

Curiousmama · 09/02/2011 21:10

no don't do it.

chipmonkey · 09/02/2011 22:11

No, don't. I'm sure you are lovely, btw and have not done anything wrong.

autodidact · 10/02/2011 21:49

lol @said

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