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Should I contact them or not?

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GinandChocolate · 08/02/2011 21:06

I recently got married. Although we had a small wedding we did send out proper invitations.

With the exception of one couple, everyone sent a card responding. Having waited until we had to confirm number of attendees with the venue, I followed up to see if they were coming. They said they would come to part of the day - OK no problem on our side.

But then on the day they just didn't turn up. No call, no text, nothing at all. And nothing afterwards either until 3 weeks later DH gets an email to ask if we are back from honeymoon because it would be great to catch up.

No apology, no card, no best wishes, no hoping we had a lovely day.

Personally I would just cross them off the friend list but wwyd? I have been friends with them for over 10 years.

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2cats2many · 08/02/2011 21:10

That's a bit strange. I'd definitely be asking them why they missed the wedding.

sleepwhenidie · 08/02/2011 21:14

Off the friends list for me, had a similar experience with a now-ex friend and my wedding too. Doesn't take much effort to let you know they can't make it and to send a card and best wishes does it?

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GinandChocolate · 08/02/2011 21:22

Exactly Sleep - not much effort at all. I am not upset that they didn't come but by their total lack of good manners.

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nigglewiggle · 08/02/2011 21:26

I would have to ask why before I decided. There might be a very good explanation which they want to tell you face to face.

roadtrain · 08/02/2011 21:28

It sounds very bizarre.

Agree that they may have an explanation so I would just meet up with them as usual and hope that they tell you the explanation, without you directly asking. If they don't, you can get your judgy pants back on.

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GinandChocolate · 08/02/2011 21:36

It is really bizarre, I agree. I guess part of me does want to know why - but I don't really want to ask.

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sleepwhenidie · 08/02/2011 22:43

I know what you mean, it almost doesn't matter does it? If they mentioned honeymoon then they obviously hadn't forgotten the wedding, so it is just out and out rude IMO. I would be inclined to avoid them and see, out of curiosity, if they decide to offer some kind of explanation, but it would be very hard for me to get back from where you are now.

QuestionNumber · 09/02/2011 09:32

I'd contact them and ask if they were OK as you've been worried about them. See what they say.

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