Would you let 9yo dd go away with family you don't know?

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Classmate of dd1 has asked her to go with her to a weekend away in a few weeks time. She's only know this girl since Sept but has 1)never mentioned her 2)never been to her house 3)asked her over, so we don't know the parents at all.

I'm sure they're very nice (I know the dad will have a crb because of his job and he works with young people but this is kind of by-the-by anyway, it's not the point). Think girl is an only child and I can see why she and parents would like her to have a friend with her as there will be activities, etc.

dd1 really wants to go but we've told her we're still thinking about it. I briefly met the dad the other day and I said we'd like to have his duaghter over to play and then we could all have a chat when they come to pick her up maybe?

But I'm generally coming down on the side of No. WWYD?

Totally see where you are coming from, however maybe you can wait to meet the family when their DD comes over to make a final decision?

Yes, was considering that, but then how do we handle that with the parents? It'd be like them being on interview! If they come round and we then say no, it'd be a real slap in the face for them wouldn't it? No, I'm starting to think we either get in touch in next few data to say no, based on dd1's lack of experience with being away from home etc (which is also a consideration) or we have them all over with the ai
being dd will go and this just helps them get to know her and vice versa.

I can't decide if I'm being overboard or reasonable. I'm sure it'd be loads better if I even thought dd and this girl were better friends. It does make me wonder why she isn't inviting someone she knows better. ?

Sorry about typos- blame iPhone!

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I'd say no, she's too young, without any hesitation. My DD1 is 9, I have agreed for her to go to France with the school this year but unless I knew a family very well I wouldn't consider this arrangement. Just say she is too young but thanks for the very kind invitation. Even if they mean well, its still not on IMHO.

BTW would you not be better off posting in chat or Am I being unreasonable threads, more traffic?

Thanks Mrs NonS. Didn't want to go on AIBU in case it started a bunfight

but maybe I will now!

Ta for replies so far. I have gone across to AIBU at Mrs NonS's suggestion, although I can see that my gut feeling might be shared by most others.

I would say no tbh. Very kind of them to offer!

But. Is there the opportunity to get to know the parents/family between now and them going away?

I may be out of the norm but...at 9 your dc has a friend who she wants to go away with..is SHE happy with this idea? Point out to her that she will be with strangers in a strange place...at the age of 9 if she still wants to go then she must be happy with the girl and the idea! She is old enough to be happy or scared of the idea...what does she think!

Mad, that's a very good point

Yes, we have been through that actually. She was initially desperate to go but I spoke to her this morning about what it would be like not being with any of us all weekend and she was a bit more thoughtful. She likes the idea in principle, but I don't think she's fully considered the implications, esp being with folk she doesn't know.