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When your dc's friend's mother arrives to pick her dc up after playing at your house

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MrsFogi · 27/01/2011 23:11

do you invite her in for a cup of tea (even if you've never really met) or do you simply return her dc? I'm just starting out with playdates for dd1 who is in reception and wondered what the "done" thing is. On one hand I'd like to invite the mothers in for a cup of tea to get to know them. On the other, I've usually just got in from work and it is the dcs bedtime. I don't want to be seen to be rushing the friend/mother off if the usual thing to do is invite them to stay for a chat at pick-up time.

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goldtinsel · 27/01/2011 23:15

You ask them for a cup of tea and they say 'I'd love to but better not! Better get the kids to bed!'

Hopefully.

Sinkingfeeling · 27/01/2011 23:15

Depends how well I know them, but usually do invite them in for a cup of tea/glass of wine and hope they say no! I'm generally a bit knackered by then and just want to get on with getting my own children bathed/ready for bed and collapsing on the sofa. I'm probably a lightweight though. I quite often take the child home afterwards rather than have their mother collect, because we live further away from school than most of their friends.

bibbitybobbityhat · 27/01/2011 23:17

Invite in for a cup of tea on the first one or two occasions. Because, yes, it is nice to know the parents of the children your dc play with at school. You don't have to do it every time they play together.

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HarrietSchulenberg · 27/01/2011 23:20

Cup of tea.

Mssoul · 27/01/2011 23:21

Invite in. If they come in, great. If not, more great

threefeethighandrising · 27/01/2011 23:40

Definitely invite them in for a cup of tea / glass of wine.

pippop1 · 16/05/2011 00:21

When you arrange the playdate, ask if they can arrive half an hour early to pick up their DC so that you can have a cup of tea.

whodunnit · 16/05/2011 00:24

cup of tea. Or make sure the kids aren't ready to go, so there is five minutes finding shoes and bags etc. Sounds like you need to befriend some mums so you know who you're sending your DD to visit.

ClipArt · 18/05/2011 19:33

If someone refused a cup of tea I'd worry that they didn't like me and couldn't wait to get home!

BsshBossh · 22/07/2011 19:49

Arrange an earlier pick up so you have time for tea. Drop into conversation when arranging pick up time that your DC's bedtime routine starts at x time so the parent understands why you'd like their DC to be picked up at a particular time.

MindtheGappp · 22/07/2011 21:44

Ask her if she would like to have tea/wine while the children are finishing their play.

Butterflybows · 07/08/2011 21:10

Could you say something along the lines of; "Collect Sophie at 5, but if you want to come at 4.30 for a cup of tea/glass of wine, you're very welcome'?

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