Mners who are always charming, complimentary and generally nice come this way please

[MrsFogi]

I know many consistently charming and nice women (unlike me who is ruled by my emotions and can vary between charming one day and being an anti-social old bag the next). How on earth do you do it? Are you always nice/charming (ie 24/7) or is it something you have to work at (ie something I can achieve too)? If the latter, how on earth are you nice and charming when inside you don't feel like that at all/are knackered/don't like the person you are talking to etc?
I'm asking because I've always been intrigued by polished women who never seem to let the smile and pleasantness drop (think smiling Kate Middleton) - I wonder whether they are just like this all the time or if it is an acquired ability and I've decided I need to work on being a bit more sparkly rather than just not bothering sometimes .

See, you're not the only one!

Marvellous mn is populated by old bags like me .

I don't think these people exist .
People who are always lovely and charming on the outside probably go home and act like bitches . It can't be good for you being all smily and nice all the time can it ?

What I really don't like though is people who use up their quota of pleasantness when out in the wider world but are grumpy arses with the people they are supposed to love the most because they "need to be able to relax in their own home".

I know a girl who is always nice. She just likes everyone, and thinks everyone has good intentions even when their actions don't make it seem that way.

People think I'm generally charming. I secretly make voodoo dolls of them and stab them relentlessly at 3am

Oi I'm nice innit and don't let anyone tell you any different.

My sil by marriage is a right * who's had fights with everyone in the world except me cos I is so nice. Doesnt mean we get on though.

I think I manage to appear charming/polite all the time offline (unless you know me well enough), lots of practise. Plus, being used to disguising depression helps

I've had a few jobs where I was told I was too smiley and friendly!

I'm a bitch tetchier on here than I am in RL. I'd rather vent here where you can all avoid me than rage at DH or DC. I'm quite nice in RL. But it does have to come out somewhere.

It's easier to be nice on here I find. When people are driving you nuts in RL its more difficult. Sometimes when people are too Smiley and Charming I think it might be a bit false, I've known a couple of people like this who were in fact very shallow. Not everyone, obviously.