Wanted to name change, but it won;t let me 
Gawd this is complicated to explain without a long winded confusing diatribe 
but I will try
I've just received a message via facebook, from someone who is on my friends list, who I do know, but she is much closer to a mutual friend of ours, this message is basically a cry for help on behalf of our friend.
She lives abroad & apologizes for approaching me, but as she is so far away, doesn't know what else to do, she is worried that our mutual friend is suicidal, has no credit on phone, has had all benefits stopped, he & pets have not eaten in days, & all she could do was send them some money & be a shoulder (she is wealthy) she sounds genuinely very concerned for our friend, & says that "mental health" have refused to help X too
Now this person is an old friend of my Husbands, & someone I've known to a lesser degree before marrying my Husband & better since & to be honest despite being a very educated person, with plenty of opportunity in life, has always been a bit to good to work for a living, & has hardly worked in their life & is very much the type the Government are cracking down on
s/he does his projects, everything from DJing, singing, writing etc, but whenever s/he gets themself a "proper job" complains its beneath them, & soon messes it up & gets sacked, usually by not turning up on time, despite being an early riser ,
I can see why at this age (not young) that some of the jobs might of make X feel a bit of a looser, but s/he has messed up good opportunities that would of suited them down to the ground too, because even though s/he is genuinely a lovely Person, they just have such an immature & irresponsible attitude to life & seem to court failure, IYSWIM , same with the opposite sex, in that they chase much younger unobtainable people, & then get all maudlin, crying on shoulders when nothing happens ....though to be honest, when they've tried that one with me, I've been very blunt with them about how silly they are being, so it doesn't happen often
I've showed the message to DH, & he just groaned, & then said he hates to feel uncharitable, but questions that this person is crying on someones shoulder, who won't fully understand the benefit changes for money, got to admit that was my first thoughts on it too :(
but neither of us understand the benefit system, are they REALLY stopping all benefits for some people, or is it as we thought, only if you don't make an effort to find work??
We both wouldn't want to see him go hungry, but neither do we want to be mugs, I've dealt with more than my share of people who think everyone else owes them, & use emotional blackmail to best effect, so not sure if I have just become very hard faced in this sort of situation.
& also they are known P' takers, both emotionally & finacially, for example we did look after their pets last Xmas, worked out well for us, as our DCs were heartbroken as our own died close to Xmas, but it was very much a favour for them, as they (said) they had been let down at the last minute, so we took said pets in, X was rushing so I naively said to sort out food etc when they returned, ended up being a longer than it was meant to be, not ideal as our DCs got too attached, & held us up picking up our new pet, took 2 months & my getting stroppy to replace the food we used
My facebook isn't working properly right now, so I genuinely can't reply to this Woman, & though I feel bad for that, as she's obviously very worried, its probably a bit of a blessing, as I really don't know what to say, or how to handle it 
WWYD???? & would they really just suddenly lose all benefits???