DS's 'friend' is a bloody little bastard!

[marge2]

I'm probably overeacting but this has really upset my DS and me too on his behalf. It sounds petty , but DS's (7) 'friend' at school has started taking the piss out of him and calling him 'freak' apparently. Yesterday he ripped up the Christmas card DS gave him after saying 'this had better have money in it'. His card to DS called him a 'banana'. DS was in a foul mood after school and when I got to the bottom of it all it turns out this was the reason - then poor DS burst into tears. He says the boys at school call him freak and call him 'chubby cheeks' (He's a lean boy so no idea why they wouldw call him this!)

Obvioulsy I want this all to stop and for DS to be happy. I'm not sure if he really is doing something to make him stand out for ridicule, or whether they do it to everyone and DS is just over sensitive.

Should I speak to the teacher? If so, I assume she will talk to the other boys and then DS is likely to be picked on even more?

Should I speak to one of the other Mums to find out of DS really is a freak according to her child? But that puts pressure on the other Mum - not her problem?

What should I do to help DS? ( I'm very tempted to go and rip the 'friend's' head off, but although it will make me feel beter it won't help DS!)

hmm. I have had a little trouble with my 7 year old and a seven year old acquantence of his.

Ds1 gave this child a pokemon card - child crunched it up and threw it away

Ds1 shouted at child.

Child shook Ds1 by the shoulders.

Ds1 bloodied child's nose.

Now, Ds1 is ASD and REALLY struggles with being shaken - he should not have punched the other child and I support the school (who have punished them both by keeping them in at break today) and have followed the party line about punching never solving ANYTHING....

However.... if someone had been supervising ds1 (as is supposed to happen) and managed to stop him being shaken, he would not then have launched in with a fist. He just wanted the shaking to stop.

And, said child bloodied the headteacher's nose a few weeks ago.

Not that I'd vocalise my very darkest private satisfaction, of course.

Well I spoke to her and she was lovely. She said she hadn;t noticed anything 'freaky' about DS or his behaviour. She is going to move him to a different table and try to encourage activities between DS and the nice new boy. She rolled her eyes big time and the mention of 'BLB''s name. The Y3 TA is a playground supervisor which I wasn't aware of so that is good. Teach is going to ask her to keep a close eye out.

I feel much better now. DS seems calmer now he has spoken about it all and is happy I have spoken to the teacher about it.

I hope that things are still improving for your DS, marge2. You definitely did the right thing by talking to the teacher.