My Dh's grandparents died over ten years ago, there was a funeral and burial but no headstone has ever been put in place because his uncle says he isn't ready to deal with it. DH's mother very much wants to get it sorted, but doesn't want to upset her brother so will not go ahead without his involvement.
My DH (and all the other grandchildren) are considering doing it without consulting their parents. It seems awful that the grave is unmarked.
I don't even know who's permission you need to have to erect one, or how to go about it. It is difficult to make enquiries because it's a small town and we don't want to cause friction if word gets out via the town gossips!
what do we do? forge ahead or wait until those standing in the way have passed too?