would you ask or not?

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a few months ago my aunt signed up to do a parachute jump for a local charity so i sponsored her. the jump was meant to be in october but another aunt asked her last week on FB when it was she said it was meant to be in october but the people hadn't been in touch so she didn't know. two questions really, should she be chasing them up to try and find out when/if it's happening? and if she doesn't appear to be doing it would it be out of line for me to ask if she has sent the money on to the charity?

You should ask her. Perhaps she's bottled out and needs a nudge.

do you mean the people who sponsor the person or do you mean the person who does the jump gives the money after they have done it? if the latter then, yes that is how i would usually expect it to work. the thing i am questioning is the fact that she doesn't seem at all keen to find out when it is actually happening. if it were me and i had signed up for a jump in october and had heard nothing by now i would be trying to contact someone to see what was going on. i am sure they gave her a contact number.

i have already given her my sponsorship if that is what you were asking.

i don't want to question her about it. i raised money for a charity a few years ago and i remember her DD (12 at the time so wouldn't have thought of this without promting from someone) asking me if i had ever gotten any kind of 'proof' that i gave it to the charity. i was so hurt that they didn't trust me to donate it. thankfully i was able to show her the certificate but i wouldn't want to make her feel like that. i don't want to offend anyone but at the same time, i want to know the money is going to the charity even if she doesn't do the jump.

Hang on, so when you did something she had you questioned through her child and yet she doesn't deserve the same?

I would post on her wall on FB - how much did you raise for the jump dear?

i know what you are saying whomoved but i just don't want to do that. i am not doubting her initial intention to give the money to the charity. i am just wondering what wil happen to it if she isn't doing the jump, and tbh she doesn't seem to want too worried about finding out what's happening. i think, if i am honest i could see her forgetting to find out about the jump and the money just being lumped in with her own money and being spent. not intentionally of course but i have to be honset and say i would be pissed off if that happened. i was in such a tizz when people had given me their money to donate, i couldn't rest til i had handed it over. going to send her a message and see if she has found out when it's happening.

Parachute jumps are often delayed due to strong winds or low cloud so I wouldn't be at all surprised if they were just waiting for decent weather. But if this were the case the jumping aunt should know all about it.