Having a home birth and I don't like my MW

[KWoo]

Not sure what to do about this one.

This is my first pregnancy and I've decided I would like to have a home birth. When I told the regular MW she was over the moon and said how positive and experience it will take less time, have fewer complications, involve less pain. I felt so good after seeing her and knew that I had made the right decision. Then I saw the home birth MW.

I found her to be really negative, judgmental and kind of rude. She is one month more pregnant than I am and she even got a bit competitive at times. I found it quite odd seeing as I kind of thought she would be really encouraging and positive but I just found that we were talking about her and her problems in her pregnancy for an hour and a half. Having to listen to her moan about being pregnant and how hard it is for her was not what I was hoping for in this experience. Maybe I'm being selfish?!

She is not going to be the one that delivers my baby and someone else is taking over from her in Feb but I'm not sure I can cope with such a negative person for the next few months.

Is it possible to ask for another MW? Will all the MW hate me if I ask for someone else? Should I just bite the bullet and put up with her in the knowledge that she isn't going to be around for ever?

Dont know if possible to get another MW, but I would be persistent in trying. This is a delicate, beautiful time and you do not need so called support tainting it with her insecurities at your expense. You are not being unreasonable at all.This should be a comforting time to remember. Find someone else.Be fair with yourself now more than ever.

You should ask for another MW.

I had a MW I couldn't get on with at the birth, and I wish we could have had another one. (Officially you are entitled to ask for another one, but in reality it was Xmas eve and they were short staffed ).

It's important that you feel comfortable with the MW (even if she's not the one who'll be there at the birth). I know it could feel a bit weird to ask, but I expect you'll be really glad you did it, you're not being selfish - just asking for a reasonable service.

Spending her time with you moaning about her own pregnancy is unprofessional and a bit odd. Although I'm surprised at an hour an a half! Where I am I got about 10 minutes with the MW! (And it was a different one each time).

Lowrib, I wish it was 10 mins with her! I'm going to give her one more chance. She was up very late with a birth so maybe she was ust in an odd mood. If she is a nightmare at the 16 week appointment I'll sack her off.

Thanks for the comments though. Nice to feel supported by someone even if its not your midwife!