Dont know whether to leave my toddler for 4 days

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Hi All

First time on mumsnet as i have a dilemma (albeit a very nice one). The chance to go on a trip away to America with my husband which would mean leaving my 21 month old boy with family. We would be away for 4 days and nights. We have only ever left him before for odd days.

He would have his cousin around him who he loves and so would be a great distraction but my main worry is that he is too young for us to tell him where we are etc and i cant bear the thought that he would be left wondering where we were.

What do you think? Too young? Has anyone done something similar?

Thanks!

I leave my nearly 3 year old with my parents every year for a long weekend on our anniversary. It is great for him to see them and he has lots of fun. He hardly notices when I come back! It depends on the child, but I have never had a problem whatsoever. It doesn't make you a bad parent

DD was 15 months when we left her for a week to go away for our 10th wedding anniversary. Was the first time we had left her for more than 1 night, but she coped fine (as did we!) She was with her brother (3.5 at the time) and my parents.

DC now have several weeks holiday a year at my parents - they love it, and so do we!

so yes, I would go for it!

i don't think i would. too young

Is there no way you could take him with you? I couldn't do it as I would miss him too much and would hate to think og him crying for me and me not being able to comfort him, it's not like America is just around the corner. It's just my feelings on it but I would never deem you a bad mother for doing it, in fact I'd take my hat off to you as you are a stonger woman than I am.

I did as I had to for work, and although I dreaded it, it turned out fine as DS coped fine witout me, and we were very happy to meet again. It makes you love them even more(if that's possible!).
As long as he stays with people he knows very well, I would say Go!

Its only four days! He'll be fine.
I had to go away for a month when my ds were small, and felt terribly guilty, but when I called to talk to them, they were either too busy playing to come to the phone, or they only wanted to know what presents I'd bought for them!

thanks all for taking the time to put up comments. they have been really useful. i think i will be staying at home after all as i cant quite get comfortable with it. he is young and has no siblings and it is an awfully long way!

thanks all - this is so great being able to get completely honest opinions on here. will be back again in the future im sure!