Moving back To UK.

[Iloveponies]

I have been living In Switzerland for 2 years but have had enough.

I am thinking of going back to the UK with my DC's and leaving my husband here to carry on working in Switzerland until he can find a new job in the UK. This could be for up to a year.

I also want to homeschool my kids when I get back because thay are quite behind they have been in Swiss school.

My Dad thinks leaving my DH here will be a big mistake because we might get used to being away from each other and he might never come back.

Am I just being totally deluded and mad to think this is a good idea.

Or I could stick it out for another year

I am very homesick and kids have not made any close friends here,but Switzerland is clean, with low crime and beautiful scenery. My husband really likes it here.

How old are your dc ? I spent 4 years there and it was a bit up and down but positive overall. Came back to fit dc into schools at R and Yr3.

Thanks for the reply, my kids are 6,7,9,11.

How did your children find going back, school where I am is a bit of a part time affair, coming home for lunch, no school uniform and wednesday afternoons off. I think this will be quite tough for them.

ds (then 7) went to International school so hours were n't such an issue . He adapted reasonably well to uniform, sit down lunch etc but took about 2-3 years to find his feet and feel confident academically. dd was too young to knwo much different tbh which was partly why we left when we did.

2-3 years to find his feet, it seems that my concerns about fitting back in are justified then.

Sniffle...I'm thinking the same as you. Been in Germany almost 3 years. DH loves it but he's never here, always away. I have no friends and am lonely.

DH is looking for work in the uk, but he's not as keen to return as me.

Good luck x

ds is quite reserved anyway though so a different child might have felt more confident sooner. Have your dc previously been educated in UK - ds hadn't so it was all new to him - if so they presumably already have an idea of what to expect.

abroadandmisunderstood,
I feel your pain, my husband works for an english company here,so everything is good for him, no commute into London either.

Sometimes I regret coming here, it has been an experience but I worry we will never be settled anywhere again.

LIZS they have been educated in the UK apart from the youngest who has been in Kindergarten for 2 years. He will be going into Year 2 in UK and he cant read yet.

The next youngest did reception class only, in the UK.

My son was put down a year in Swiss school but will presumably have to go back up in England Ahhrg. My head is a mess.

Oh god, I know how you feel about the education. DS1 is 5, in Kindergarten, and has another year there. However, he was so fed up with not being able to read that I taught him last year. I feel so frustrated that he's not being taught anything yet. If we return to the uk will I even be able to get him into school. Each day ticks by where I think "He is missing out on schooling".

My worst case scenario is to return to the uk with the boys, leaving DH here, but I've not told him this.

It's so hard isn't it, I had heard that the Swiss education system was excellent, small class sizes and well paid teachers, this is true and I think long term the kids in switzerland end up just as well educated (if not better) then in England,but if you cant make that long term commitment, then they are behind their English peers. I hope it will all come out in the wash in the end. I think being taught in a foreign language should make work in English seem easier relatively.

I think if your DH is looking for work in UK then that is promising, do you think he understands how difficult it is for you.

My DH wants me to make more effort to enjoy it here, he cant really understand the need to go back and thinks the UK has gone to the dogs.

So does my husband! He says it's gone to pot and yes, I read the news, but my heart is still in the uk.

I'm on a downer today because in 50 minutes I have to collect DS1 from his last day at Kindegarten. All the parents will be going, to mingle, chat etc. I try to join in but feel ostracised. I don't fit in. It makes me miss the uk even more...

Yes, I have done the last day at Kindergarten mingle and stood there like a plum!

I think every parent struggles at these events though not just auslanders. In Switzerland the kids walk to kindergarten by themselves so you dont have a school gate as such, that makes it hard to get to know other Mums even if you speak really good German, which I dont.

Have a good day,hope it's not too bad,lie back and think of England iyswim.