shit stirring between friends

[tegan]

i am 1 of a trio of friends whos dh all get along well too. last night my bf ranf me a nd ranted that i had been sayin loads of stuff about her and it came from our other friend.
i called other friends dh and asked why these lies had been told to bf and he and her denied all knowledge
last week we let my other friend borrow our car for a week and now we feel like we have been shit on by them
bf and i are fine but it took a long conversation and both of us realising the other friend and her dh had done more stirring than first thought

why would anyone do this to people who are supposed to be friends?

Jealousy? What are you supposed to have said, and is there any truth in it or is it totally made up? Either way it is completely out of order of the other friend, and I would think carefully about carrying on this friendship. Your bf may end up feeling the same way. Nobody likes a shit stirrer.

I would probably want to get together with bf and talk about it. Would leave the dh's out of it for now. Would also be careful not to involve too much alcohol.

it was all lies and they told me bf had said stuff which too were les.
It is all jealousy, they have fallen out with everyone on their estate and i know why now

well, at least now you both know and can cut them out of your lives.

Some people just enjoy causing trouble. It's like they can't bear to see anyone happy.

i know but it annoyed dh even more cos we leant them a car because theirs broke down and then to be like that to us it has made me ill the last couple of days

today i have to see these people face to face and return a blanket and dressin up outfit and i know it won't be a pleasent experience

Just be calm and aloof. Don't get drawn into anything or let them pull you down to their level.

good advice thanks

How did you get on Tegan when you saw your (ex) friends

it was pointless, my bf and i have forgotten the whole thing but the other persons dh is trying his best to carry on an argument, putting his status on fb things like "you want to watch your back" and it's amazing how u can copy and past convo's from fb chat" as if i have said anything i shouldn't have.

i am trying to ignore it all but it is gettin me down now