how Has if affected you? Mine left when I was three nearly four, and my brother a few months old, she then died in an accident, a few years later, so we never saw her again, I have a memory of the last time I saw her, as I was excited, I heard her come into the house and rushed out of bed, she coldly told me to go back to bed, I remember feeling upset, as I wanted to see her, and that was it.
I don’t think it affected me, more the events after, as we ended up abused by the woman my father married, he joined in.
overall it was a tragic set of circumstances. The leaving was not the big issue for me, it was what came after. What it led to. Her death, the abuse. Being not wanted.
i always find it surprising on here when i see posters go on about men leaving their kids and saying how the women always ends up dealing with it. And think to myself. How lovely to be so naive, many many women abandon their children, I know of two other women it happened to, it is less than men, but far from uncommon. It’s also often justified, maybe she was mentally ill, couldn’t cope, abused. In reality some just do it, as they feel trapped and don’t wish that life. It is something we don’t speak of. Try to play down.
but women leave children, women abuse children. We’ve seen some very high profile cases in the news. Even on tn4 threads on the little French boys, some posters rushed to excuse the mother saying she must be mentally unwell. No one said that about the men.
the reality is yes some are unwell. Some can’t cope. But many are just selfish and or cruel.