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AMA as a wills and probate solicitor

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Fi16 · 28/03/2026 19:36

AMA

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Fi16 · 29/03/2026 09:50

Hi all just to say I’ve answered as many queries as I can :) I will try and get through everything. If I haven’t responded yet it’s because the query is either a little bit more complicated or it’s outside of my knowledge. I don’t really deal with contentious issues I.e stealing from estates etc as that would normally be passed to another team. But will try and answer all in time :)

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Ophir · 29/03/2026 09:51

Roughly how long do you take to reply to a client’s email? A couple of basic questions in it, and a request for an outline of what happens next?

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 09:51

KitchenColourandstyle · 29/03/2026 09:50

I would think the estate is large enough to require probate. Where do I search for a will?

https://probatesearch.service.gov.uk/#wills

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KitchenColourandstyle · 29/03/2026 09:52

Thank you.

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 09:53

Ophir · 29/03/2026 09:51

Roughly how long do you take to reply to a client’s email? A couple of basic questions in it, and a request for an outline of what happens next?

Honestly it would depend how busy the firm is. I understand delays frustrate clients so I always try to respond asap. I would just keep chasing. I know it can be frustrating and I get the feeling some firms / solicitors are just quicker than others and depends on staffing levels. X

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Ophir · 29/03/2026 09:55

Thanks @Fi16

i think because they deal with this stuff all the time they don’t realise how stressful it is for the lay person!

charliehungerford · 29/03/2026 09:58

What advice would you give to a married couple If you know your husband/wife is going to die shortly what can be done to simply the process re probate. If all financial assets are in joint names is probate still required.

Ineffable23 · 29/03/2026 10:01

Fi16 · 28/03/2026 21:21

It could be for a number of reasons but two years does sound like a long time. What seems to be the delay ? If it’s without a will the wait can be longer but I haven’t encountered 2 years before. X

This surprises me - we recently applied for letters of administration and it was such a quick and easy process it made me seriously reconsider if I would even want a will if I was happy with the intestacy rules. We had letters granted within 48 hours of submitting the forms - I was genuinely astonished. There was no IHT to pay.

Iocanepowder · 29/03/2026 10:03

My mum wants to leave me her house in her will.

She has a partner (not married) who has lived with her for 20 years. He has shared bills but not contributed to the mortgage.

My mum said that if she dies first, i am not to ‘kick him out straight away’ while he finds somewhere else.

My question is, what risks are there for me in this scenario? For example, do i risk becoming an unwilling landlord to her partner? What happens if he refuses to move out or takes a long time? Does he have any legal right to stay there as he has lived there for such a long time?

I want to talk to my mum about this but want to get the facts straight. My main concern is financial, where i end up paying towards house repairs etc longer that i would intend to and it would become a money pit before i can sell it. I live a few hours away and I have my own mortgage and 2 young kids.

Denim4ever · 29/03/2026 10:49

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 09:48

I guess it depends on the reason for the delay but at 2 years it does seem excessive. Have you tried their complains procedure. Have they given any reason for the delay ? X

My feeling is that for a while they only did anything when I prompted them by asking for an update.

TokenGinger · 29/03/2026 11:13

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 00:13

if you are not married and your estate exceeds your IHT allowances at the time of death then yes IHT would be payable. This is different to married couples where any transfer to a spouse on death is free form IHT. Even if you are joint owners of a property a proportion of that property would be taken into account for iht purposes on first death and then again on second death. Also whatever assets pass on first death may be taxed and then again taxed on second death. We therefore recommend all couples who are unmarried look at their will options seriously to mitigate IHT. Our standard product is a discretionary trust will which mitigates IHT issues very well so it may be worth approaching someone for advise on this x

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. This is incredible helpful. I think we need to look at marriage!

Crochetcreamlace · 29/03/2026 11:17

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 09:31

That’s a tricky one. We obviously couldn’t draw up a will where there was a conflict for the clients so unless they did agree and we were sure that one hadn’t influenced the other we may need to to disengage and for them to take their own advice separately. However trust structures could largely resolve the issue by splitting assets down the middle client 1 leaving her estate to whoever they wanted and the same for client 2 with the ability for the trustees to look after the survivor from funds if required. For partners we recommended discretionary trust wills. Some clients really are opposed to trust wills but they can be very useful in resolving issues like this and protecting assets for chosen beneficiaries. If making mirror wills there’s nothing to stop the survivor changing the beneficiaries and this is standard advice we give on a daily basis so trust wills would help here . If inheritance tax is an issue then I would certainly recommend these trusts to stop double IHT from occurring which is a risk with unmarried couples x

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Thank you so much for taking the time and trouble for such a helpful response x

Ophir · 29/03/2026 11:28

Ineffable23 · 29/03/2026 10:01

This surprises me - we recently applied for letters of administration and it was such a quick and easy process it made me seriously reconsider if I would even want a will if I was happy with the intestacy rules. We had letters granted within 48 hours of submitting the forms - I was genuinely astonished. There was no IHT to pay.

It’s taken two months to be appointed executor here (same but Scottish equivalent)

Like drawing teeth. They still haven’t told me what IHT threshold applies (death of second of married couple) nor about getting expenses from the estate: not tricky questions for supposed experts

KitchenColourandstyle · 29/03/2026 12:26

No will shown there. I will continue to check for a will or grant of probate.

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 13:11

MamblesPambles · 28/03/2026 20:55

Please can I ask, my late df left his half of the house and his savings to my dm, in trust for her during her life, which then (following her death) will then pass to the benfeficiaries of the two wills that were created (one for each of them, both exactly the same). When the solicitor was advising my parents (a month before my df died), she didn’t say that if my df had any savings accounts that had over £50k in them, then he should transfer money over to a different account, to drop it below £50k. So despite dad’s half of the estate being under the IHT threshold, we had to go through the probate process, as one of his savings accounts had £60k in, and the bank wouldnt release it without probate.

I am an executor and trustee, and I am in the process of trying to sort out a trust account for df’s savings. When my dm passes away, will we have to apply for probate again, because of the trust? Her half of the estate is below IHT threshold, and she has little in the way of savings. The trust holds half the house (tenants in common) plus my late df’s savings (around £95k). Should I open two (or more) different trust accounts of below £50k each, so that we don’t have to go through probate again? Thanks

Each bank has different thresholds regarding what they will and won’t release without probate. On your mother’s death you will need probate again to sell the property even if there are little savings. There shouldn’t have been any tax due on your father’s death if his trust created a life interest for your mum as transfers between spouses are exempt from IHT in any event. This is presuming it is a life interest trust and not a discretionary trust. Hopefully this helps but let me know if you need further clarification x

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MamblesPambles · 29/03/2026 13:19

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 13:11

Each bank has different thresholds regarding what they will and won’t release without probate. On your mother’s death you will need probate again to sell the property even if there are little savings. There shouldn’t have been any tax due on your father’s death if his trust created a life interest for your mum as transfers between spouses are exempt from IHT in any event. This is presuming it is a life interest trust and not a discretionary trust. Hopefully this helps but let me know if you need further clarification x

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Thanks so much for this! It is so kind of you spending your free time answering lots if legal questions from strangers on the internet :)

I think if you say that probate is needed anyway as there will be the house to sell, then it can’t be avoided, so that has answered my question - thank you. I hadn’t realised that probate was necessary if there was a house as part of the estate. Thanks again, and I hope you have a lovely Sunday!

DeftWasp · 29/03/2026 13:23

MamblesPambles · 29/03/2026 13:19

Thanks so much for this! It is so kind of you spending your free time answering lots if legal questions from strangers on the internet :)

I think if you say that probate is needed anyway as there will be the house to sell, then it can’t be avoided, so that has answered my question - thank you. I hadn’t realised that probate was necessary if there was a house as part of the estate. Thanks again, and I hope you have a lovely Sunday!

As the estate involves a trust you will have to complete form IHT400 and its relevant sub sections too, even if no tax to pay, a real cure for insomnia that one!

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 13:28

charliehungerford · 29/03/2026 09:58

What advice would you give to a married couple If you know your husband/wife is going to die shortly what can be done to simply the process re probate. If all financial assets are in joint names is probate still required.

If all joint then probate is not required. However what I would say is that if there is a concern re the survivor’s estate being used up for care fees for example or any other risk to the estate to look at the planning carefully if they are able to because in that case a different type of Will may be appropriate . That type of Will may result in probate but the cost associated with that compared to the loss on care fees would be minimal (depending on the complexity of the estate and assets of course). If care fees / other risks of everything passing to surviving spouse absolutely then joint names would avoid probate x

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MamblesPambles · 29/03/2026 13:28

DeftWasp · 29/03/2026 13:23

As the estate involves a trust you will have to complete form IHT400 and its relevant sub sections too, even if no tax to pay, a real cure for insomnia that one!

Thank you, @DeftWasp . Does that form need filling in when the trust is being wound up? Or does it need filling in now? We are getting a trust account that pays no interest, so we don’t need to do tax returns for it (suggested by the solicitor)…

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 13:29

Fi16 · 29/03/2026 13:28

If all joint then probate is not required. However what I would say is that if there is a concern re the survivor’s estate being used up for care fees for example or any other risk to the estate to look at the planning carefully if they are able to because in that case a different type of Will may be appropriate . That type of Will may result in probate but the cost associated with that compared to the loss on care fees would be minimal (depending on the complexity of the estate and assets of course). If care fees / other risks of everything passing to surviving spouse absolutely then joint names would avoid probate x

Can I ask if there is a will already or would your parents be relying on intestacy rules ? X

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Fi16 · 29/03/2026 13:36

Iocanepowder · 29/03/2026 10:03

My mum wants to leave me her house in her will.

She has a partner (not married) who has lived with her for 20 years. He has shared bills but not contributed to the mortgage.

My mum said that if she dies first, i am not to ‘kick him out straight away’ while he finds somewhere else.

My question is, what risks are there for me in this scenario? For example, do i risk becoming an unwilling landlord to her partner? What happens if he refuses to move out or takes a long time? Does he have any legal right to stay there as he has lived there for such a long time?

I want to talk to my mum about this but want to get the facts straight. My main concern is financial, where i end up paying towards house repairs etc longer that i would intend to and it would become a money pit before i can sell it. I live a few hours away and I have my own mortgage and 2 young kids.

So in this case your mum could do a straight forward will leaving the house to you which means her partner does not have a right to reside there and you would dictate when he should leave. If he refused to leave that would need further advice. The better option is for your mam to make a discretionary trust will which are good for unmarried couples. It would state the wish that he could reside there for x amount of time and that he should be responsible for the upkeep of the property. The trustees would then have discretion over his occupation. The trustees would need to manage this so the appointment of appropriate trustees would be important and a relevant consideration if there is risk for dispute. Another point though is that if he has been reliant on that property and he is not satisfied with what he has been left from the estate he could bring a 1975 claim against your mum’s estate if he was so minded. I could not say if he would be successful in respect of this. There’s a few options here so I would suggest your mum gets further advice on this and raises her concerns with a solicitor who could guide her further x

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Usernamenotfound1 · 29/03/2026 13:39

Do you think the whole probate/executor process is flawed and to open to fraud/misuse?

we are in a contentious probate at the minute as the executor just did not. Told beneficiaries “estate settled and no assets”, and did not apply for probate. that’s it. However we know there was money and know that the executor removed it before telling the bank of death. However we do not have bank statements, so the police can’t investigate, the bank say the executor has to report any misuse of accounts, and there’s no probate so can’t use that route.

chances are it will cost £££ that my elderly aunt does not have.

it has made me realise that executors can get away with this as only they have access to the evidence, it’s a position of trust so the assumption is they act correctly unless you have hard evidence, so it’s very difficult to get an investigation started.

makes me think there should be some form of banking protocol or probate check, or it should be law that every account goes through probate. Banks should not be releasing sums over 1k either, an executor being able to remove 30-50k with no probate is just asking for theft.

DeftWasp · 29/03/2026 13:56

MamblesPambles · 29/03/2026 13:28

Thank you, @DeftWasp . Does that form need filling in when the trust is being wound up? Or does it need filling in now? We are getting a trust account that pays no interest, so we don’t need to do tax returns for it (suggested by the solicitor)…

It has to be submitted with the probate application, with it you submit form IHT418 for assets held in trust.

All valuations are taken at the date of death, if there is property get it valued by an RICS surveyor, the valuation should be to a willing buyer on that day, so will be less than an estate agents valuation because it takes account of reductions, delays, costs etc. that happen in the routine selling process.

MamblesPambles · 29/03/2026 13:59

Thanks for this, @DeftWasp

NormasArse · 29/03/2026 14:05

Fi16 · 28/03/2026 23:04

I’m assuming your relative had not married since the first Will was written ?

No, he never married. Thank you for answering. It’s just the brass neck of the guy that annoys me. I’d rather it went to charity than someone who was a shit friend to him.