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I am highly intelligent, ask me anything

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nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:01

Using standard IQ scales/assessments I am highly intelligent. I have also done some research into high intelligence. Being highly intelligent has advantages and drawbacks. Ask me anything :-)

(Just to preempt some comments: No, I don’t think intelligent people are better human beings than other people. I think qualities such as being kind are more important for example. No, intelligent people are not always ‘better for society’, there is some evidence, for example, that really highly intelligent people carry out proportionally somewhat more crimes (white collar). No, I don’t look down on less intelligent people (sometimes I envy them), but it can obviously be a bit difficult to connect if you have very different frames of reference. No, intelligence does not have any direct links to social skills (positive or negative).)

OP posts:
Parisian14 · 22/02/2026 16:34

Nearly50omg · 22/02/2026 10:03

I’ve a very high iq and wonder what on earth this is about?!!!🤷‍♀️ lots of us are highly intelligent but we don’t go round crowing about it and putting up posts saying oh I’m so clever!

Honestly, this type of post is a problem with mumsnet. Nowhere do I see the OP “ crowing”. This is the usual typical, how dare you post this brigade, we are going to cr@p on your post.

Unlike you, I do not view myself as intelligent, which of course you felt the need to advertise (similar to the OP but with no self awareness). Maybe that is why I can’t see the “crowing”

I am not missing out on much then!

illbetheresunorrain · 22/02/2026 16:36

What measuring scale did you use and how much your IQ is....any examples how you have outdone others in being intelligent

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 22/02/2026 16:51

Parisian14 · 22/02/2026 16:34

Honestly, this type of post is a problem with mumsnet. Nowhere do I see the OP “ crowing”. This is the usual typical, how dare you post this brigade, we are going to cr@p on your post.

Unlike you, I do not view myself as intelligent, which of course you felt the need to advertise (similar to the OP but with no self awareness). Maybe that is why I can’t see the “crowing”

I am not missing out on much then!

Have you actually read any of OP’s posts? They seem a bit sneery and trying to impress with their intelligence yet very little substance to it.

Calliopespa · 22/02/2026 16:52

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:17

Completely agree that IQ is just one measure, that's why I tried to exemplify. 'Emotional intelligence' is a bit of a weird concept though. I'd say I am as 'emotionally intelligent' as the average person, at least. I'm very sensitive and easily cry when I hear about horrible things or think about the state of the world.

No I am not autistic.

(I'll ignore pointless questions. Feel free to move to another thread if this does not interest you or you feel provoked, it is very common when intelligence is discussed.)

I do agree that high intelligence can be provoking to people, but I am not sure the autistic question was unreasonable? I think you were a bit touchy and don't understand why you wouldn't have expounded on that a little more.

dontcallhimpunch · 22/02/2026 16:55

The other thread was really enlightening. I have another question for the OP,
have you ever had a habit of using substances like weed, ecstasy or LSD?

Sisandbro81 · 22/02/2026 16:55

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 22/02/2026 16:51

Have you actually read any of OP’s posts? They seem a bit sneery and trying to impress with their intelligence yet very little substance to it.

But the minute she’s asked about her personal circumstances, romantic relationships, whether any children, whether she has a job…. She scarpers. Having dedicated her entire day to the thread. Telling

MissyMooPoo2 · 22/02/2026 16:57

CamillaMcCauley · 22/02/2026 09:50

You’re not giving very clear or detailed descriptions of what it’s really like to experience the world as a highly intelligent person.

Is that because it’s just too hard to explain in a way that dum-dums like the rest of us can understand?

No, it’s because OP isn’t as highly intelligent as she claims. Her writing style is appalling and she fails to give an even slightly interesting or insightful answer to any question. She’s either trolling or mentally ill, possibly both.

iamtryingtobecivil · 22/02/2026 16:59

Ok - define intelligence

The last time I studied this area, albeit brief, was there is not a general consensus on what intelligence is as a construct…therefore how do you measure that?

IQ MENSA etc are measuring something..but that doesn’t mean it’s the same construct as in an agreeable definition of what intelligence is.

A lot of talk on this thread about your intelligence and quick thinking etc in an academic field so you know stuff and process fast is that intelligence?

CamillaMcCauley · 22/02/2026 16:59

MissyMooPoo2 · 22/02/2026 16:57

No, it’s because OP isn’t as highly intelligent as she claims. Her writing style is appalling and she fails to give an even slightly interesting or insightful answer to any question. She’s either trolling or mentally ill, possibly both.

Oh I’m well aware :-)

That was one of the many questions the OP has elected not to address.

SerendipityJane · 22/02/2026 17:01

iamtryingtobecivil · 22/02/2026 16:59

Ok - define intelligence

The last time I studied this area, albeit brief, was there is not a general consensus on what intelligence is as a construct…therefore how do you measure that?

IQ MENSA etc are measuring something..but that doesn’t mean it’s the same construct as in an agreeable definition of what intelligence is.

A lot of talk on this thread about your intelligence and quick thinking etc in an academic field so you know stuff and process fast is that intelligence?

Other posters have also failed to be told what "intelligence" we are talking about.

I'm guessing its the sort the OP is good at.

FuckRealityBringMeABook · 22/02/2026 17:05

nolinkname · 22/02/2026 09:07

I'm a researcher and lecturer so it helps to have a job that is fairly independent.

I don't have children. An interesting PhD thesis was written maybe 10 years ago where highly intelligent people had been interviewed and a majority of them did not want children because they did not want to put anyone through their experience at school.

Meh. I am a professor, as are loadsof my mates. We all have kids and mates and normal lives and don't get hung up on seeing ourselves as some special breed. In fact getting to the upper echelons of academia really calls for people and management skills these days as well as raw brains.

iamtryingtobecivil · 22/02/2026 17:08

SerendipityJane · 22/02/2026 17:01

Other posters have also failed to be told what "intelligence" we are talking about.

I'm guessing its the sort the OP is good at.

Oh I see fair enough didn’t read all of thread.

Grandiose somewhat the n hmmmm

SixtySomething · 22/02/2026 17:08

We keep saying ‘she.’ If this is really written by the subject of the other thread, it’s a ‘he.’
Is there any evidence it’s a ‘she’?

Sisandbro81 · 22/02/2026 17:09

MissyMooPoo2 · 22/02/2026 16:57

No, it’s because OP isn’t as highly intelligent as she claims. Her writing style is appalling and she fails to give an even slightly interesting or insightful answer to any question. She’s either trolling or mentally ill, possibly both.

And lonely And bored

thedramaQueen · 22/02/2026 17:10

iamtryingtobecivil · 22/02/2026 16:59

Ok - define intelligence

The last time I studied this area, albeit brief, was there is not a general consensus on what intelligence is as a construct…therefore how do you measure that?

IQ MENSA etc are measuring something..but that doesn’t mean it’s the same construct as in an agreeable definition of what intelligence is.

A lot of talk on this thread about your intelligence and quick thinking etc in an academic field so you know stuff and process fast is that intelligence?

This is one of the reasons I think this thread is odd... as the claim to be highly intelligent is subjective in so many ways. As I said earlier starting this thread was not really the most intelligent thing to do. Albeit, it was most likely meant in good faith, it does rub people up the wrong way.

Uricon2 · 22/02/2026 17:14

SixtySomething · 22/02/2026 17:08

We keep saying ‘she.’ If this is really written by the subject of the other thread, it’s a ‘he.’
Is there any evidence it’s a ‘she’?

I don't think the OP of this thread is anything to do with the one where the OP's DH is sadly currently very mentally unwell (and has now been sectioned)

I think there are distinct similarities with a thread a couple of weeks back and have linked that, as have others.

poke955 · 22/02/2026 17:17

IfThen · 22/02/2026 11:05

This is a myth that shows up a lot on here. I’m an academic, so everyone I work with has a PhD, and across all the institutions I’ve worked at in three countries, there’s as much variation in common sense among those who have PhDs as there is in any other set of people. The ivory tower thing is long gone. These days to function as an academic you don’t float about tweedily, occasionally dropping off the illegible MS of your new book to OUP, you have a lot of admin responsibility as well as teaching and research, and are often managing postdocs and researchers and administering large grants as PI, so you need management skills, plus the ability to do outreach and disseminate your research outside academia.

I agree and disagree about this. Academics are forced to do management but most are happier not to. I often get the feeling many are in academia, not due to intelligence, but lack of good social skills. At least in my experience. Not saying I'm much better. Just observing.

notwavingbutdrowning1 · 22/02/2026 17:18

@nolinkname, there is quite a lot of hostility towards you on this thread because you have described yourself as highly intelligent. Some posters seem keen to point out that other things matter as much or more; others cast doubt on your level of intelligence; others accuse you of arrogance.

Do you think we suffer from a very unintellectual culture in this country? In France, for example, it is quite normal to describe yourself as an intellectual - not here. Why are the British so against the idea of above-average intelligence? I get that our culture dislikes boasting (Asians and Americans are far more upfront about their talents and achievements) but why do we expect people to downplay their intelligence?

WelcometomyUnderworld · 22/02/2026 17:18

I’ve said before on this thread, but I don’t think you understand the difference between personality and intelligence, or causation and correlation.

As previously stated (and I repeat because of its relevance to this thread), I have a top 1% IQ, I’m extremely academic and thrive in an exam scenario and I’ve been very successful very quickly in my job.

My job is mostly explaining difficult concepts to other people who don’t have the technical training and knowledge I do, and statistically are less intelligent than I am.

I don’t struggle to connect with them, I don’t struggle or get bored in conversations with them, I don’t find it frustrating they don’t get things as quickly as me, I’m able to be patient and explain and help them understand. I don’t overthink things, I don’t worry about geopolitics or try to ponder over solving problems that aren’t mine to solve. None of that is absolutely and irrefutably linked with intelligence.

You keep saying there are plenty of studies that show intelligent people struggle to connect with others, but you’ve not cited any of these (and an academic too!) but I anecdotally know plenty of intelligent people who don’t struggle at all. Stereotypically autism is linked with both intelligence and difficulty building relationships, so it’s possible that that’s what causes the correlation - hard to say without knowing what studies you’re referring to and doing more reading.

Sisandbro81 · 22/02/2026 17:20

SixtySomething · 22/02/2026 17:08

We keep saying ‘she.’ If this is really written by the subject of the other thread, it’s a ‘he.’
Is there any evidence it’s a ‘she’?

You mean aside from fact that mumsnet is dominated by “shes” and on balance of probability - very very reasonable to presume “shes”

poke955 · 22/02/2026 17:21

Rocknrollstar · 22/02/2026 16:18

DH and I are both in top 2% and had no qualms about having children. Both of our’s were also in that range. We all enjoyed school - when we weren’t bored - and yes we all play musical instruments.

Just wondering WHY you weren't bored? Was it just fun to do things that were easy? I know a gifted kid who i worry will be bored but doesn't seem to mind school!

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 22/02/2026 17:24

notwavingbutdrowning1 · 22/02/2026 17:18

@nolinkname, there is quite a lot of hostility towards you on this thread because you have described yourself as highly intelligent. Some posters seem keen to point out that other things matter as much or more; others cast doubt on your level of intelligence; others accuse you of arrogance.

Do you think we suffer from a very unintellectual culture in this country? In France, for example, it is quite normal to describe yourself as an intellectual - not here. Why are the British so against the idea of above-average intelligence? I get that our culture dislikes boasting (Asians and Americans are far more upfront about their talents and achievements) but why do we expect people to downplay their intelligence?

It has nothing to do with being hostile towards the idea of above-average intelligence. It's actually a very interesting subject, if discussed in an intelligent way.

By the way, you might want to be a bit careful about your sweeping generalisations. Asia is a big continent. Some Asian cultures do indeed encourage people to be very upfront about their talents and achievements, but some other Asian cultures would consider this kind of behaviour very crass indeed.

Gwenhwyfar · 22/02/2026 17:44

scottishgirl69 · 22/02/2026 12:19

I don't think common sense and putting together furniture are necessarily the same thing. I'm terrible at it but I don't think I lack common sense. Some people are good at DIY and others aren't. Don't think it's linked to intelligence or lack of

Yes, I'm not very bright AND ALSO bad at putting together furniture.
I don't think I lack common sense either.

CamillaMcCauley · 22/02/2026 17:44

notwavingbutdrowning1 · 22/02/2026 17:18

@nolinkname, there is quite a lot of hostility towards you on this thread because you have described yourself as highly intelligent. Some posters seem keen to point out that other things matter as much or more; others cast doubt on your level of intelligence; others accuse you of arrogance.

Do you think we suffer from a very unintellectual culture in this country? In France, for example, it is quite normal to describe yourself as an intellectual - not here. Why are the British so against the idea of above-average intelligence? I get that our culture dislikes boasting (Asians and Americans are far more upfront about their talents and achievements) but why do we expect people to downplay their intelligence?

The hostility is to do with the fact that the OP launched a thread with a bold but interesting premise, and since then has supplied nothing but vague, pat, recycled answers that do nothing to validate her initial claim.

If the idea of an AMA is to give people insight into a life experience that is very different from their own, then the OP has thoroughly failed to understand the assignment that she volunteered for.

SerendipityJane · 22/02/2026 17:46

SixtySomething · 22/02/2026 17:08

We keep saying ‘she.’ If this is really written by the subject of the other thread, it’s a ‘he.’
Is there any evidence it’s a ‘she’?

If only English had a mechanism for being able to address people who are unknown to the author ? Une peu comment le mots francais "tu" et "vous" n'est pas ? Nous pouverais utiliter le mot Anglais "they" peut-etre ?

Excusez mon Francais abomindable. J;ecrit de memoire 😀