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Am I alone?

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Mumofkidss2 · 19/12/2025 14:40

A few weeks ago I realized I was working 2 overlapping shifts at work,I tried finding coverage but no one got back to me so I asked my boss. I was on the schedule to work A and B shift. I found someone for B the same time my boss found someone for A. So I was then only going to be working 4 hours instead of 12 and my husband went ballistic saying we weren't taking the kids to this celebration and I better fix it so I am working a normal shift so I did and picked up someone else's 12 hour shift(we need the money) so I told him all this the night before despite him screaming at me. Then the day we were supposed to go somewhere he was like I am sick so you better not be working 12 hours,so then I had to contact my boss and be like I have to work the 4 hours and not 12. Then my husband tells me if my boss was a guy I would have been fired because he would have fired me because I sound whiny etc.
But now hes telling me I was giving my shifts away and how I will have to start working 100 hours a month because we cant afford groceries. This coming from someone who quit a job working less hours because his boss wanted him to work earlier in the morning and he didnt feel like getting up.

Then last night he bought stuff and one package of erasers accidently opened in the front when he picked it up(easy fix to me,get some tape and tape the front and pull the erasers from the back) tell me why this man then decides to slam the package into the bag busting it opening screaming how no one is getting * christmas now and hes not wrapping anything and hes done hes going to sell the house and the kids can come with him or not.
This man literally screamed over the smallest things(which aren't small to him by the way obviously). His behavior is absolutely ridiculous hes in his late 40s screaming at his own children. Demanding i work 100 hours a month at work even though I am only on call.

I want to know what resources are out there for me? Also hes not the civil type,he has threatened before to call the cops on me if I took our joint car to work instead of solving an argument immediately when I was going to be late for work,he has threatened to change the locks on me as well(hes the only one with his name on the house),and hes also said he will get a free lawyer(he used to work with them) and that I will be the one to pay child support and not have custody because my 2 sisters didn't have their kids and I didn't grow up with my mom.

I need opinions or insight please

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JudgeBread · 19/12/2025 14:44

Oh love. No one should be screaming at and threatening their partner, for any reason. Your relationship is abusive, which I think you know because you're reaching out. Have you considered contacting Women's Aid to talk it through? They can signpost you to the most appropriate help for your situation. He can't just get full custody of your kids because he feels like it, that's not how it works so don't let his baseless threats dissuade you from seeking help and starting the process of leaving him.

PipMumsnet · 19/12/2025 15:56

Hi @Mumofkidss2 we are so sorry to read this.
We think it might be a good idea to move your thread to another board like Chat where we sense you will get a lot more support - AMA is an acronym for Ask Me Anything so not quite the board for your thread.
If you would like us to do this for you just report your thread by using the report feature in the drop down three dots menu on the top right of your opening post.
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