Eldest two are in university and working part time and seemingly doing well. Third child is in the armed forces, also seemingly doing well.
Fourth child much like the eldest 2 were at that age, doing well academically, struggling in every other sense. Often has school refusal and fairly severe social issues but loves to do the work that school sends home. Spends a lot of time online learning about things that interest them but has no friends or social life. I get regaled often in great detail about historical events and geography in particular.
Fifth child is not a talker but sings or hums almost constantly (even in sleep sometimes). Bright enough but not interested in learning, pretty much just stimming and sensory seeking 24/7.
Youngest is pretty much text book ADHD. They also have no thought for their own safety, no concept of danger, no concept of the consequences of their actions, hurts themself often by being so physically hyper and sometimes hurts others by accident (me usually)
My older kids are doing much better than I ever was at their ages. I do think that increased awareness, support and their earlier diagnoses’ have enabled them to manage their issues better and helped them to learn how to live with them constructively. My biggest worry is for the youngest 3. They may well need additional support later in life but I thought that about my eldest and they are absolutely flying now.
I had a very different upbringing to my children which may or may not have played a part in why I am the way I am, but I did manage to work for a long time before I burned out and am still recovering which could happen to any of them. All that to say, I think it’s too early to tell.