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Ask me anything about triplets!

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TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 06:48

Hi mumsnetters, its been about a month since I brought my trio into the world. I had two sons (Quinn and Theo) and a daughter (Lydia), and already had two school-aged sons (Hugo and Xander). In one of my first posts about needing advice on their names, someone suggested I do an AMA on everything about having them, so here I am! Ask away everybody :)

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Relocatethecockringsbeforethemormonsarrive · 12/02/2025 06:53

Congratulations on your babies! How did your birth go?

LittleRedRidingHoody · 12/02/2025 06:59

Congrats! What are you doing about car space (if you have one?)

MrsPepperpotsCat · 12/02/2025 07:19

Congratulations! 👶 👶 👶

How do you find time to sleep?! What do the older children think of it all? Do you have help from family and friends?

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:01

@LittleRedRidingHoody I was really worried about car space before having the triplets. When I was about 7 months, my husband and I both sold our cars. I still had a tiny 4-seat car, and he had a small 5-seat car that barely fit our oldest's car seats. He upgraded to a people mover, I upgraded to larger sized 5-seat car. We bought all brand new car seats (we researched to find narrower ones) and have managed to fit all 5 seats into his car, though it was a struggle 😂, and put our oldest's old seats into my new car so I can drive them more.

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Zippidydoodah · 12/02/2025 08:04

Are those your children’s real names? Are you concerned that people reading this will know who you are? Most people want to be anonymous on here.

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:16

MrsPepperpotsCat · 12/02/2025 07:19

Congratulations! 👶 👶 👶

How do you find time to sleep?! What do the older children think of it all? Do you have help from family and friends?

@MrsPepperpotsCat (Sorry I wrote so much!! 😬)

Sleep is overrated 🙄🤣 With our oldest 2, we stuck to strict sleeping and nap schedules, which progressed to sleeping in the night and it worked very well, however we have found that extremely difficult to manage for three children, while considering their older brothers needs their sleep too. My advice? Do what's easiest for you. It may take a while to find what routine or schedule or method works for you, your children, your family, we still haven't found our balance yet, but stick at it!!

Our oldest (Hugo) was quite scared of having more younger siblings, which my husband and I spoke to him often prior to the birth. We struggled with how to talk to him and prepare him for this, as having triplets was extremely scary for my husband and I, as their is so much unknown. We tried to reassure him that it was just going to be live the birth of our second (Xander), but tripled. I worry that our oldest have felt a bit ignored, as DH and I have so much on our hands, but we've prioritised our special time with them e.g. reading before bed, eating together at the dinner table, asking lots of question about their day and school. Our second has loved having younger siblings, and is excited for them to be big enough to play with, which I think is adorable.

We have been infinitely blessed by the amount of help we've received. A couple of my friends brought by food to ensure we were eating proper meals, and it was a saving grace. The trio and I spent a bit of time in the hospital post-birth, and unfortunately my husband's work had a crisis, but I was so lucky to have my mum, aunt, and mother in law spend a lot of time with me.

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TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:20

Zippidydoodah · 12/02/2025 08:04

Are those your children’s real names? Are you concerned that people reading this will know who you are? Most people want to be anonymous on here.

I'm not embarrassed about what I've posted on here, I'm always seeking advice or looking to help others 🤗 A lot of what I've post about is what I speak to the people I know about in person.

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Parsley1234 · 12/02/2025 08:23

Congratulations and fabulous names ❤️

HoldingTheDoor · 12/02/2025 08:27

Are you planning on becoming an influencer and (over) sharing their lives on Tiktok/Youtube?

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:32

HoldingTheDoor · 12/02/2025 08:27

Are you planning on becoming an influencer and (over) sharing their lives on Tiktok/Youtube?

@HoldingTheDoor I don't have time for that 🤣

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HoldingTheDoor · 12/02/2025 08:33

Oh good. I hate it when people do that and yes, I can imagine that you don’t.

HoldingTheDoor · 12/02/2025 08:37

Oh and how did you choose which boy got which of your chosen names? I always wonder how people decide which twin is Ben and which is Tom?

HotCrossBunplease · 12/02/2025 08:41

What sort of work has a crisis that is more important than being with your partner, newborn triplets and five other children? Are you not concerned to have a partner with a job that is so incompatible with your very significant family commitments?

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:42

@HoldingTheDoor Hahahha, I love this question! My husband and I decided that whichever came out first would be Theodore, and the second boy be Quinn because Theodore was the first of the triplet's name we were 100% set on. I used to never understand people saying their babies names 'suit them', but I've understood that with Theo and Quinn.

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HoldingTheDoor · 12/02/2025 08:43

Thank you for answering my questions and congratulations on your new additions.

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:44

HotCrossBunplease · 12/02/2025 08:41

What sort of work has a crisis that is more important than being with your partner, newborn triplets and five other children? Are you not concerned to have a partner with a job that is so incompatible with your very significant family commitments?

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@HotCrossBunplease I really can't speak on what my husband does for work, but his work in extremely important, and when I say he was busy, he was still at the hospital with us, but unfortunately would have to step outside frequently or for long amounts of time for calls and meetings, or have to be working on his laptop.

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FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 12/02/2025 08:49

HoldingTheDoor · 12/02/2025 08:37

Oh and how did you choose which boy got which of your chosen names? I always wonder how people decide which twin is Ben and which is Tom?

My friend had twin girls. She'd always had one name set in stone from before she was pregnant, so the first twin "out" was given that name. The second twin was given the name they'd decided on after they'd found out it was twins.

Sorry for jumping in on your AMA, OP, I just thought this was interesting.

argyllherewecome · 12/02/2025 08:49

Does your husband have any hobbies OP? If it's too outing you don't have to say.

HotCrossBunplease · 12/02/2025 08:50

Well guess he must need a Big Job to support eight children. But beware of him using it as an excuse to check out of family life, the signs are not good if he could not clear his diary for the birth of triplets. Nobody is that indispensable.

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:54

@argyllherewecome He does, but I'm unsure why you'd ask this?

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OrangeSlices998 · 12/02/2025 08:55

Where are people getting the idea there’s 8 children?! Triplets plus 2 older children = 5!

Congrats OP. Do you have them all on a schedule with feeding? I imagine one feeds rolls into the next!

TroysMammy · 12/02/2025 08:56

HotCrossBunplease · 12/02/2025 08:50

Well guess he must need a Big Job to support eight children. But beware of him using it as an excuse to check out of family life, the signs are not good if he could not clear his diary for the birth of triplets. Nobody is that indispensable.

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Am I missing something? Two older children and triplets (3) totals 5 children not 8.

argyllherewecome · 12/02/2025 08:57

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:54

@argyllherewecome He does, but I'm unsure why you'd ask this?

Sorry, I thought this was a spoof thread and was just playing along!

TheMummyJade · 12/02/2025 08:57

Hi everyone! I have 5 children :)

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LiaMae · 12/02/2025 09:00

Following on from threads and advice on here about ‘never being able to put the baby down’ or ‘how do I shower with a new baby, as I can't put him down’…just how do you manage? 😆🤔