Realised i'm gay in my thirties and left DH

[procrastinatorgator]

AMA

Writing this in case there is anyone going through the same thing - I could really have used this when I was confused!

What made you realise you're gay and not bisexual?

Have you left the marital home or expecting him to?

I had attractions to girls when I was younger but had always grown up in a very awkward household where these things weren't discussed and never really realised that being gay was an option. I realised I was bisexual in my twenties but never really knew how to go about meeting women and always had a sort of imposter syndrome about it. After my first child was born my attraction to women became very strong and I struggled with it for a long time. After the second child it intensified and after about 5 years of battling it and really hoping it was just a phase because I didn't want to hurt my ex, I eventually couldn't do it anymore. I know I'm not bisexual because I have no desire to be with a man again and finally feel comfortable and happy, like I'm really myself, for the first time in my life

I did, but we live abroad for work and the house is connected to my job so no real choice there

How did the ex and your kids take the news and split?

Ps. I'm glad you're happy and feel like the real you 🤗

<waves from across the late-blooming lesbian lounge> <also can we actually have one of those pls>
Hello @procrastinatorgator realised I was properly very gay in my late 40s. Don't want to gatecrash your AMA so just quickly saying hello; there are a few of us out there, hope life on the other side of what us inevitably a messy middle is good for and to you.

Thank you! They've been fine about it. I'd not tell him this, but ex isn't the easiest person to live with (a little grumpy, never wanted to do anything) so I think they're not missing his presence in the house too much as he was often a bit grouchy. So now when they see him, they actually have quality time together, which is better for them.

😁Thank you! I wish there was some kind of group or community for us - it would be great to hear everyone's stories. I'd love to hear yours if you're up for sharing!