I’m a Grandmother and MiL. AMA

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Not that unusual I know, but there’s many threads on here where relationships are strained. My insight may help.

Are you a paternal or maternal grandmother. The relationships that are strained are generally between paternal mils and their dils.

I’m now no contact with mine. But her nastiness appeared to stem for her to continue to control her son, so that meant control my life too.

The craziness went up a notch after we had a baby and she had expectations that she could take over and control that too.

I think though she is a throughly nasty person. I don’t think she was a nice dil to her mil, (her mil, my gmil, is lovely and loathes my mil, so I think she is just unpleasant and would be whatever her title.

Maternal and Paternal Grandmother, so I have a DiL and SiL.

It’s sad that the situation came to that for you and your MiL and interesting that she has other strained family relationships.
Does she still see your partner/her son?
Do you see a way forward?

I think I appreciated my own MiL more once I became one myself.

Currently relationships are good in my family, from my own perspective, but I’m hoping this thread may be beneficial to me too and give me some insight into potential problems that could arise in the future

Why do MILs go insane when grandchildren are born? Both my mum and MIL both went a little nuts and overstepped boundaries and apparently this is quite common (well in my circle anyway).

😂 I suppose that depends on what you mean by going a little nuts and where the boundaries are set.

I found it quite strange becoming a grandmother. I’d always had control over my own life and relationships but becoming a grandparent is a role you don’t get to choose.
Tbh, I’m not sure I felt ‘ready’. In contrast I think the other ‘in-laws’ in both situations were desperate!