I started dating my husband at 14.

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People are often surprised we lasted so I though it may make a slightly interesting AMA.

Thankyou!

I'm so sorry to hear that. How utterly heartbreaking :(

I'm taking it neither of you have been with anyone else so do you ever feel like you are missing anything?

No because I suppose there's nothing missing.
If I was unhappy with him in some way I would probably wonder if I'd missed out on something better but I'm very happy.

Dh and I met at school, both aged 16y and we've been together since.
34 years later - married for 25 years, one adult daughter, and still all going well.

Do your ever talk to your dh about if he feels he is missing out though? Especially now you are getting older.

Not really. He tells me all the time how lucky he is to have me, that he loves me, loves our kids, loves our life together so I don't feel the need to ask when he's very vocal about his satisfaction in our relationship.

He's never strayed, never given me reason to doubt him so the issue of us being unfilled and looking for something elsewhere isn't really an issue.

We have briefly mentioned it to one another - but he feels the same as I do, or at least says so.
As we don't feel there is anything lacking in our relationship, it's not something we are concerned about or think about really.

It was very much the norm not too many years back anyway.
It's less common now, but not that unusual ime. I have friends in similar situations.

I guess if we had issues in our relationships or an aspect of it wasn't great it may be ,ore likely to cross out minds.

Also these issues about boredom and temptation are issues in all marriages.

You could spend your teens and early 20s shagging everything in sight, settle down, marry at 25 and after 15 years these questions would be relevant.

How can you miss something you've never had? And I'm no prude, we have a very healthy and varied sex life but I feel that's because we know each other inside out.

I don't think I could be open and relaxed with someone in the same way if we didn't have that connection.

Everybody is different of course and there's absolutely nothing wrong with having multiple partners, I'm not coming at this from a moral or religious standpoint, I just never did that because I fell in love very young.

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oops.
I just went back and checked the posting times hoping I could say “oh I cross posted with OP” but no. I just wasn’t paying attention.

Sadly, late to the party, but I'd like to ask whether you think that your example of longevity, kindness and compassion etc etc will contribute to your children's relationships with their partners. My parents divorced when I was young and i had no idea how to maintain a relationship. What are your views... and congratulations on finding your other half so young.