To go to the funeral or not..?

[LilacTootsies]

My husband's auntie has recently died. I don't get on with his family and she was the only family member I genuinely liked. Although I only saw her probably once a year if that, she was always open about the fact she liked me and would often defend me against MIL who would quite often bad mouth me.
Sadly as I say she passed away last week.
We live the other end of the county so I do have the "excuse" that I have the children to get to school etc, I'd like to go in one sense as I liked her, but the living members of the family who will be there.. not so much and many of them I've been NC with for over 2 years including an abusive BIL who often can't keep his mouth shut.

Should I go, or should I let DH go on his own with a sympathy card to his uncle from me?

I'd stay away.
Perhaps send a card to DH's uncle after the funeral, telling him how sorry you are about her death and how fond you were of her. I'm sure he's aware of the family dynamic and will understand you not attending.

@Justmuddlingalong I think you're right, he knows I was fond of her and the both of them, but also knows the relationship I have with the rest of the in laws. I think childcare is a good enough reason to give anyway as it is likely to be a weekday as most funerals are.