My dad had Alzheimers AMA

cadburyegg · 2023-06-09T12:29:59+00:00

He died in 2021. Feel free to AMA and I'll reply after school pick-up.

Maraschina · 09/06/2023 19:22

AD is such a cruel disease. Sorry for your loss.
How have you applied what you learnt to yourself? Have you made changes to lifestyle to try to reduce your risk?

NoPrivateSpy · 03/07/2023 22:41

Am so sorry for your loss, OP.
How long did he have it for and how long do you think he had symptoms before diagnosis?

Saracen · 04/07/2023 00:00

What are you glad you did - or wish you had done - when he was in the early stages?

NoPrivateSpy · 05/07/2023 17:38

Saracen · 04/07/2023 00:00

What are you glad you did - or wish you had done - when he was in the early stages?

Good question! That is where we are now. Struggling to find support that my MIL wants to access at this stage as she's definitely still (understandably) in denial.

toomanydicksonthedancefloor1 · 05/07/2023 17:50

How would you handle this as a son and daughter in law? My mum in law is (we are pretty certain) in denial and in the early stages. Unfortunately my dad in law is also massively in denial and even though he was the first to mention to us he was worried, because it caused a massive argument when we spoke to mum in law about it, he's now covering for her. They go everywhere together, rush off from all our meetings, he answers questions for her etc. when she looks confused. She was very angry with him when she found out he had mentioned it to us. we don't know what to do. She spoke to the GP who spoke to dad in law who told the Gp it doesn't affect her day to day life, and that was that. GP said they didn't see an issue but they hadn't been honest to him. But she forgets something straight away, you can tell her the same thing 3 times within 10 mins.

NoPrivateSpy · 05/07/2023 21:33

toomanydicksonthedancefloor1 · 05/07/2023 17:50

How would you handle this as a son and daughter in law? My mum in law is (we are pretty certain) in denial and in the early stages. Unfortunately my dad in law is also massively in denial and even though he was the first to mention to us he was worried, because it caused a massive argument when we spoke to mum in law about it, he's now covering for her. They go everywhere together, rush off from all our meetings, he answers questions for her etc. when she looks confused. She was very angry with him when she found out he had mentioned it to us. we don't know what to do. She spoke to the GP who spoke to dad in law who told the Gp it doesn't affect her day to day life, and that was that. GP said they didn't see an issue but they hadn't been honest to him. But she forgets something straight away, you can tell her the same thing 3 times within 10 mins.

How old is your MIL? I think drugs at early stages can slow it down but then we are dealing with the depression and fallout from the knowing. And that's really hard right now. And really sad for all concerned. Also, my MIL is 80 so the drugs probably won't slow it down for very long I imagine and she also has some terrible side effects.

There is something in the ignorance of not knowing what may come. They will obviously have to tackle it at some stage.

It's such a horribly cruel disease, I can totally see why you might not want to know and pretend there is nothing wrong for a bit longer.