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I have volunteered in emergency shelters for 30 years AMA

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everybodyin · 14/03/2023 07:21

I have been a volunteer running and supporting emergency shelters for rough sleepers for over 30 years now. AMA

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everybodyin · 16/03/2023 14:59

Thank you 😀

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purpledalmation · 17/03/2023 11:40

I get entirely what you are saying about men usually, who when housed welcome everyone in and their home eventually becomes the local doss house. Neighbour's complain and the person is evicted No win situation.

AnneWhittle · 29/03/2023 22:01

what's your view on begging OP?

everybodyin · 30/03/2023 11:44

AnneWhittle · 29/03/2023 22:01

what's your view on begging OP?

This is a very difficult one

It is clear that there are organised criminal gangs controlling beggars on the street, and placing them in strategic situations, and taking their money at the end of the day.

It is clear that there are people who are begging who are not homeless, and are begging for other reasons.

It is clear that allowing someone to subsist on begging can give them a way out of engaging with the structures and charities in place that could help them out of being street homeless

For all these reasons, I have a policy of not giving money to beggars. I have a policy of only offering food and clothing

But it is not an unbreakable policy, I have twice in recent months given a beggar the cost of a hostel overnight.

I think in one instance I could well have been conned, and in the other instance, I am as sure as I can be that it was genuine

Sometimes, food and clothing is just not needed, and a place to lie your head in safety is the important thing - plus hostels often have free food, washing facilities, etc.

So my answer is, I dont know. It is a personal decision, and it depends not only on the person begging, but the person considering what to offer.

I think that in a crowded public space though, there is no reason not to smile and say hello, even if you are saying "sorry, no"

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AnneWhittle · 30/03/2023 19:20

it is difficult isn't it
for the reasons you give I am very reluctant to give money
also- I work with DV survivors and once became aware that the perp of one of the women I worked with was begging on the streets I walked through- I had no way of recognising him but couldn't face risking giving him money
I do donate to homelessness charities but that seems somehow heartless compared to helping the person in front of you
I wish there was a scheme for buying vouchers for food- or shelter- that you could then give directly to people

Radi0 · 30/03/2023 20:24

Well you could pop in to Costa or anywhere really and buy a few gift cards to hand out?

everybodyin · 30/03/2023 20:41

Radi0 · 30/03/2023 20:24

Well you could pop in to Costa or anywhere really and buy a few gift cards to hand out?

vouchers for shelters is a brilliant idea,

I normally offer food, but in reality, particularly in cities, free food is abundant, and many beggars don't need it. The gentleman I was speaking to last week told me the only thing he needed was sleep. Anything else he could beg, steal of borrow ( his words!) but he hadn't slept in days because he was so frightened on the street.

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