So whist talking to a random mum at soft play she was surprised at our “big family” 9 children (full time custody of 3 step children) l. Never thought of us as a big family lol but ask away
AMA
lemons44 · 09/08/2022 20:36
'We’re going to need people to fix the planet, so having plenty of children is a good thing. We are also going to need tax payers and carers and medical staff to be nice to us when we get too old or sick to take care of ourselves. I’m sure all of “the world is overpopulated” won’t mind going to the back of the queue given they would be happier if said carers, medics and tax payers never existed?'
@Itwillworkifyoutryit2222 oh my god are you for real?! Are you honestly that naive to how bad serious climate change would be that you think the worse option is not having enough young people to look after the older generation?! Do you realise how many people (old and young) would be at risk if climate change got much worse? My colleague is one of the people who has lost her house and all her belongings this month in one of the UK wild fires. Thank goodness they were all evacuated. It's an eye opener.
Viostep · 09/08/2022 20:37
Lots of very angry people here. You sound great OP, I wish I had your energy and organisation skills and I only have 1 child! It's brilliant that you were able to integrate and blend the families into one. How lovely that your step kids are living in a loving home with their step siblings and two little half siblings, instead of going into care. Family is everything and you sound like a lovely person.
That pro breeders comment is hilarious. Nothing like dehumanising women who make the choice to have children. I recycle, save energy, don't drive, walk most places, don't go on foreign holidays but I draw the line at being shamed for having a baby. I only have 1 but if I wanted 5 I would have them, guilt free!
orangeisthenewpuce · 09/08/2022 21:20
I thought this was AMA not 'listen to me bleating on about how you've had more children than I want you to' fgs
SushiSuave · 09/08/2022 21:10
What do you spend a week on food? You're OH must earn an absolute fortune to support all of those children (having been a TA I know your wage must be minimal). Do you have family to help with childcare or do you pay for childcare too?
Vick99 · 09/08/2022 17:41
Can I just check that all the people who are so concerned about the environmental impact of these children never go on aeroplanes, never use the car for journeys of under 3 miles, have no spare bedrooms, are strict vegans and never indulge in buying anything which isn't 100% essential for their survival? Let he who is without guilt throw the first stone and all that!
OP you sound like a lovely mum who has your big family completely in hand.
Tillsforthrills · 09/08/2022 19:49
OP you have a large family of 6 children and took on 3 more to help them. Much more impressive to me that you manage to care for them all - there’s no way I could. Much more so than nasty, vicious people spouting about the planet.
The type of people in the news today, pouring milk on Harrods floors trying to look virtuous, when all they’ve done is make already lowly paid workers clean it all up.
UnnecessaryFennel · 09/08/2022 21:26
Well tbf the OP started an AMA and then has barely posted. Not surprising it's gone off the rails a bit.
orangeisthenewpuce · 09/08/2022 21:20
I thought this was AMA not 'listen to me bleating on about how you've had more children than I want you to' fgs
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Surlybassey · 09/08/2022 22:11
Well this has turned into a giant scrap hasn’t it? I usually try and resist wading in, but @Tillsforthrills as someone else has pointed out, Italy had one of the lowest birth rates in Europe. It’s better to check facts rather than reverting to long outdated stereotypes before you call people’s posts “moronic”. And I note that OP appears to be evading the environmental impact question. Sorry OP, you do sound lovely and I’m sure that your family is loving and fun - not being goady but I’d love to hear your opinion on that as it’s genuinely not something I could ask my friends IRL who have bigger families.
ScreechingEchoChamber · 09/08/2022 21:00
Itwillworkifyoutryit2222
That is a perfectly reasonable position. I am undecided the extent to which population control is going to help at this point - what worries me is people reacting so violently to the raising of the question. Even on a post that is specifically about having a big family.
We need to talk about it, is all. Without personal attack and without defensiveness. It's not easy, but neither is the next several decades going to be without a willingness to at least try to address the issues. I think we're still lots of us stuck in denial and we need to swiftly get through all the other stages of grief to get to a point we might actually be able to make effective change.
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